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The Relationship Reset: Regulate to Relate | Beatriz Victoria Albina
Beatriz Victoria Albina

THE RELATIONSHIP RESET:
REGULATE TO RELATE

12-week community-based program featuring self-paced learning, private Q&A podcast episodes, group breathwork sessions, and a supportive community of people doing this transformational work alongside you.
Finally, a course that gets to the REAL reason your relationships feel exhausting — and how to heal the patterns that keep you stuck
Enroll Now - $1297 $997

You know this feeling...

One moment you're planning your future dog's name together

The next you're googling "how to ghost someone nicely"

You meet someone amazing

And your brain immediately starts spiraling: "When will they realize I'm too much/not enough/completely insane?"

You're in a good relationship

But you STILL get triggered by the way they load the dishwasher (seriously, there's ONE correct way!)

You love them deeply

But somehow their text saying "hey can we talk?" makes your nervous system think the apocalypse is starting

Family dinners

Leave you feeling triggered for days, no matter how "well" they went

Your friendships

Feel like you're constantly performing instead of just being yourself

If this sounds familiar, you're not broken. You don't need more relationship advice.
You need to understand the system that's been running ALL your relationships: your nervous system.

Your Nervous System Has Been Writing Your Love Story

Your nervous system is constantly scanning ALL your relationships for safety or threat, making split-second decisions about connection based on what it learned about love from your past experiences.
  • Getting obsessed with people who are emotionally unavailable (romantic partners, friends, even family members)
  • Losing attraction or interest the moment someone actually likes you back
  • People-pleasing your way through dates, family dinners, and friendships until you don't even recognize yourself
  • Having emotional meltdowns over things that "shouldn't" be a big deal
  • Feeling like you have to choose between being authentic and being loved
  • Staying in relationships that drain you or leaving ones that could actually work
  • Putting ALL your emotional needs on your romantic partner because other relationships feel "less important"
    • This isn't a personality flaw. This is your nervous system doing exactly what it learned to do to keep you safe.

    The Solution: Nervous System & Relationships

    What if every dating disaster, every family trigger, every friendship that fizzled out isn't actually about the other person—it's about your nervous system?

    When you heal your nervous system patterns, you don't just transform your love life—you transform your capacity for ALL relationships.

    This means deeper, more authentic friendships that don't require you to perform. Family relationships where you can hold boundaries without guilt. Professional connections that feel supportive instead of draining. A romantic life that doesn't carry the impossible weight of meeting ALL your connection needs.
    Show Me How

    What You'll Learn

    Week 1: Your Nervous System IS Your Relationship Life

    Why your body treats ALL relationships like survival emergencies and how to change that. The "relationship resume" your nervous system wrote based on your past experiences.

    Week 3: The Dopamine Rollercoaster

    Why new relationships feel like your brain got hijacked. The three nervous system responses that create connection chaos across ALL relationship types.

    Week 5: Fawning & Emotional Outsourcing

    Why you leave social interactions feeling drained. How to stop people-pleasing your way through ALL your relationships. Breaking the myth that romantic love should meet all your needs.

    Week 7: The Transition to Deeper Connection

    Why "getting closer" can feel terrifying in ANY relationship. How to navigate increasing intimacy in friendships, family relationships, and romantic partnerships.

    Week 9: Long-Term Relationships & Regulation

    Why even good relationships trigger your old stuff. How to have conflict without your nervous system thinking the relationship is ending. Creating a diverse ecosystem of love.

    Week 11: Healing in Community

    How to support each other's growth without becoming each other's therapist. Creating relationships that support your nervous system instead of overwhelming it.

    About Your Teacher

    Beatriz Victoria Albina laughing in pink shirt

    Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH

    UCSF-trained Nurse Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner with a Master's in Public Health. A proud Oberlin College grad (class of flannel shirts and Ani DiFranco on repeat), she is the creator of the term Emotional Outsourcing™ and author of the forthcoming future bestselling book End Emotional Outsourcing.

    Béa (Bay-ah) is known for her sharp, science-backed approach that bridges nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and intersectional feminism. Her work unpacks how childhood emotional conditioning, socialization, and systems of oppression shape our inner narratives — and how reclaiming our bodies as safe homes can change everything.

    Through her flagship program Anchored, her podcast Feminist Wellness, and her courses in nervous system education and somatics, she's helped thousands of smart, self-aware folks finally stop performing for love and start living in alignment with their values.

    Her work is both deeply educational and radically tender, rooted in the belief that you don't have to earn your worth - you were born worthy of love, care and all good things in this life.

    What You Get

    🎯 6 Deep-Dive Teaching Modules

    60-90 minutes each with complete nervous system education for ALL relationships and practical tools you can use immediately

    🎯 6 Personal Q&A Podcast Episodes

    Submit your real questions about romantic, family, friendship, and work relationships. Get personalized guidance for your specific patterns

    🎯 Private Community Access

    Connect with others doing this life-changing work across all relationship contexts

    🎯 Monthly Group Breathwork Sessions

    Nervous system regulation in action with the group

    🎯 Complete Toolkit

    Handouts, reflection questions, daily practices, and emergency regulation protocols for real-life situations

    🎯 Lifetime Access

    All materials available immediately. Keep coming back as you grow and ALL your relationships evolve

    Student Success Stories

    "I used to think I was just 'bad at dating.' After this course, I realized my nervous system was just trying to protect me based on what it learned about love. Now I can catch myself before I spiral over a text message, AND I've built deeper friendships that actually support me instead of draining me. I'm not putting all my emotional needs on my romantic partner anymore."
    — Sarah, 29, Chicago, IL
    "My marriage was stuck in this cycle where every small conflict felt huge. But I also realized I was doing the same thing with my family and friends—avoiding conflict until I exploded. Learning about nervous system responses changed everything. Now I can have difficult conversations across all my relationships without staying triggered for days."
    — Michelle, 34, Paris, France
    "I thought I was commitment-phobic because I kept running from good romantic relationships. Turns out my nervous system just didn't recognize healthy love as safe—in ANY context. This course taught me how to receive love from friends, family, AND romantic partners without immediately looking for the exit. My whole support system is stronger now."
    — Alex, 27, Boston, MA

    Ready to Transform Your Entire Relationship Ecosystem?

    Your nervous system learned its current patterns for good reasons. But those old survival strategies might be sabotaging the very thing you want most: real, lasting, nourishing connection in ALL areas of your life.
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    You deserve love that feels safe, steady, and real across ALL your relationships.

    You deserve connections that support your growth rather than requiring your performance. And you have everything you need to create it.

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