Emptying yourself
to fill everyone else
ends here.
You understand your patterns. You can trace them back, name the wound, explain the whole architecture of it. And when someone's upset, you still explain before they even ask. You still cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You still lie awake replaying the conversation. Understanding was never going to be enough to change this. These patterns live in your nervous system -- in your body's learned responses, not your thinking mind. That is where the work has to happen. Every program on this page is built on exactly that.
Which of these is you?
Read each one. Notice which one lands in your body rather than your head. That is your starting point.
You keep abandoning yourself to keep everyone else comfortable.
You say yes when you mean no. You over-explain every boundary until it collapses. You manage everyone's emotions and have no idea what you actually feel. You make progress and then slip right back. You are not confused about your patterns -- you are exhausted by your inability to stop them. The Shift is where you build the nervous system capacity to finally do something different.
Take me to The Shift Signals & Safety • $997You are living in survival mode and your body will not let you out.
The anxiety that arrives without a reason you can name. The freeze when you need to speak up. The way your body braces before certain conversations even start. Wired and tired. Dysregulated. You have tried to think your way through all of it and your nervous system keeps running its own program anyway. Signals & Safety is where you finally get the map -- and the tools to work with your body instead of fighting it.
Take me to Signals & Safety The Relationship Reset • $997You keep losing yourself in relationships -- and you are done doing it.
You wake up in a relationship and realize you have abandoned yourself in it. You go from one to the next putting them first, you last. You are surrounded by people who love you and feel completely alone. You rehearse the conversation for days and still fall apart under pressure. Your nervous system has been writing your relationship patterns. The Relationship Reset is where you change the author.
Take me to The Relationship Reset Anchored • Waitlist Open • Reopens 2027You are hanging by a thread and you are done doing this alone.
You have been struggling with this for years -- maybe your whole life. Something recent made it unbearable: a relationship ending, your health deteriorating, burning out, turning 50 and realizing time is running out, seeing your patterns show up in your kids. You have tried everything else. You need more than a self-paced course. You need live coaching, real community, and the full work. That is Anchored. It reopens in 2027. Join the waitlist now.
Join the Anchored waitlistAll three courses,
in full detail
Each program is $997 and self-paced with lifetime access. Start immediately, move at your own pace, return whenever you need it.
From Emotional Outsourcing
to Unshakeable Self-Trust
Stop watching yourself people-please in slow motion. Build the actual nervous system capacity to do something different.
You cancel plans with yourself the moment someone else needs something. You say yes when everything in you means no. You have watched yourself do it and been genuinely bewildered -- you know what is happening and you cannot stop it. That is not a character flaw. Codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits live in the nervous system, not the thinking mind. The Shift is 12 weeks of structured somatic practice built around the three needs at the root of every Emotional Outsourcing pattern -- safety, worth, and belonging -- and the embodied work of learning to source them from inside yourself. The same foundational methodology as Anchored, structured entirely around your own life.
- 6 deep-dive teaching modules (40-48 min each)
- 6 private podcast Q&A episodes answering your specific questions
- Somatic movement training videos to use in real time
- 12 workbooks with daily trackers and real-life scripts
- Lifetime access -- download everything, come back whenever you need it
Lifetime access • Start immediately
Nervous System Foundations
Your body keeps ambushing you. This is where you get the map -- and learn to work with your nervous system instead of being run by it.
You understand your anxiety. You can name your triggers, trace them back, explain the whole thing. And your body still does what it does -- the freeze, the brace, the exhaustion that has nothing to do with how much you slept. More understanding is not going to close that gap. What changes the pattern is working at the level where the pattern lives: your nervous system. Signals & Safety is 12 weeks of somatic education and practice built from 20+ years of clinical training. You come out knowing why your body responds the way it does -- and with the tools to meet yourself differently in the moments that used to undo you.
- 6 teaching modules on nervous system states, stress responses, and regulation
- 6 private podcast Q&A episodes answering your specific questions
- Somatic movement training videos for grounding and embodied practice
- Workbooks to track what is actually shifting in real time
- Lifetime access at whatever pace your nervous system needs
Lifetime access • Start immediately
Regulate to Relate
Stop cycling from obsessed to overwhelmed. Learn what your nervous system is actually doing in relationship -- and how to change it.
She rehearses the conversation for three days and still says the wrong thing under pressure. He ends it with the person who was wrong for him and immediately misses them. She is surrounded by people who love her and feels completely alone. Your nervous system has been writing your relationship patterns your whole life -- and you can rewrite them. The Relationship Reset is 12 weeks of self-paced work built around one foundational truth: regulation is the prerequisite for connection. Thirteen teaching modules, private podcast Q&A, somatic practices, workbooks, and lifetime access. You stop treating "hey, can we talk?" like an emergency. Everything changes from there.
- 13 teaching modules covering relational nervous system patterns
- Private podcast Q&A episodes answering your specific questions
- Somatic practices designed specifically for relational triggers
- Workbooks and lifetime access
Lifetime access • Start immediately
Overcoming Codependency — the six-month small group coaching program
The deepest transformation available. Live coaching with Béa, daily support, close community, and six months of the full work together.
- Weekly live group coaching sessions with Béa
- Daily written coaching in a private community
- Weekly private podcast lessons, yours to keep forever
- Somatic movement, breathwork, and meditation library
- $10,000 • 6 months • Payment plans available
"My work is the place where the science and the sacred meet."
Béa Albina is a UCSF-trained Nurse Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. She is the creator of the term Emotional Outsourcing -- her framework for the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits that disconnect people from their self-trust, their boundaries, and their own desires. She is also the bestselling author of End Emotional Outsourcing (Hachette, 2025) and the host of the Feminist Wellness podcast.
Her work bridges nervous system regulation, somatic healing, and intersectional feminism -- rooted in the belief that you do not have to earn your worth. She lives with her wife Billey, too many houseplants, a mischievous cat, and a deep reverence for the earth beneath her feet.
Shorter courses.
Specific work.
Not ready for a full 12-week program, or want to go deep on one specific thing? These shorter courses are your entry point -- and they are all designed to build on the bigger programs when you are ready.
Boundaries & Brave Conversations
Say no and mean it. The body-based work behind holding a boundary without over-explaining until it becomes a yes.
Enroll nowFeel Your Feelings
For people who understand their emotions intellectually and have spent a lifetime doing everything but actually being with them.
Enroll nowHerbs for Anxious Hearts
20 years of herbalism practice distilled into the plants that actually support nervous system steadiness and regulation.
Enroll nowSomatics 101 Workshop
New to somatic work? This is what it means to live in your body -- and why it changes everything that thinking alone never could.
Enroll nowRelationship Reset + Boundaries Bundle
Both courses together. Regulate in relationship, then hold the line. The full arc at a reduced price -- saving $150.
Enroll nowBrowse the full library
New courses added regularly. Visit the Somatic Studio to see everything available.
See all coursesThere is no wrong door.
Every program runs on the same framework. You can enter anywhere and the work connects. Here is a quick guide:
Pick the $997 course that names where you hurt most.
People-pleasing, over-functioning, self-abandonment? The Shift. Anxious, freeze-prone, blindsided by your own reactions? Signals & Safety. Your patterns live in relationship? The Relationship Reset. Start with the one that made you exhale when you read it.
Want to try one specific piece first? Start in the Studio.
The $37-$97 courses in the Somatic Studio let you go deep on one thing -- boundaries, feelings, plants, somatics. They are complete on their own and they are designed as on-ramps to the bigger programs when you are ready.
Want the full live experience? Get on the Anchored waitlist.
Anchored is six months of live small group coaching with Béa. The deepest work available. It reopens in 2027. Join the waitlist now -- and do a Studio course or one of the $997 programs while you wait.