You want to feel safe and regulated in your own body.
You want to trust yourself without second-guessing everything.
You want to stop living in your head and start living in your body.
You're ready to work with someone who gets it - all the science, all the woo, all of you.
You're in the right place...
My name is Beatriz Victoria Albina - you can call me Béa (Bay-uh)
I help smart, driven women stop living their lives for everyone else - and start trusting themselves.
Chances are you're successful by every external measure...
You've built the career, the relationships, the life everyone said you should want. People come to you for advice.
You're the go-to person, the one who holds it together, the one who makes things happen.
You can make high-stakes decisions for other people all day long. You advise your team, counsel your friends, help your partner think through their career moves.
But when it comes to your own life? You're frozen.
Should you take the job? Send the text? Stay in the relationship or finally leave? You poll your friends, make elaborate pro-con lists, lie awake at 2am replaying every possible outcome. You know you're overthinking it - but you can't stop, because what if you get it wrong?
You say yes when you mean no because the thought of disappointing someone makes your stomach churn.
You carry the mental load for everyone - managing moods, anticipating needs, smoothing over tension before it even surfaces. You're so busy holding space for everyone else's emotions that you've completely lost touch with your own.
You feel like your worth is tied to how much you do - instead of who you are.
And here's what's really going on: you're living almost entirely in your head, disconnected from your body.
You've spent so long being the Good Daughter, the Good Partner, the Good Professional, Good Daughter/Son that you have no idea who you are underneath all of it.
Your nervous system is dysregulated - stuck in stress, vigilance, and reactivity. You can't calm down. You can't rest. You're running on adrenaline and anxiety, and no amount of thinking your way through it is going to change how your body feels.
You want to feel grounded, embodied, regulated. You want to actually live in your body instead of just operating from the neck up.
You know something has to change. You're just not sure how to make it actually stick this time.
Are you wondering if I've been
reading your journal?
Nah, I know all of this because I lived it too, and I found my way to the other side, which is why I'm soooo passionate to help you live a life you actually want to live.
For years, I was the person everyone leaned on. The caretaker. The peacekeeper. The one who never let anyone down - except, of course, myself.
I didn't know how to slow down. I had no idea who I was outside of what I did for other people.
My body was screaming - chronic stomach aches, tightness in my chest that wouldn't let up, racing thoughts that kept me awake at night. But I ignored all of it. I told myself I just needed to try harder, be more disciplined, push through.
I thought if I could just get it all right - be the perfect daughter, friend, partner, colleague, primary care provider, business owner and employer - then I'd finally feel whole, safe and worthy of love and care.
Spoiler alert: putting myself last and everyone else first, never worked.
Tap dancing for my lovability never worked either...
Instead, I felt drained, disconnected, and like I'd completely lost the thread of my own story. I was living someone else's version of my life, and I didn't even know how I'd gotten there.
My turning point came when I finally stopped searching for answers out there (gestures vaguely at the universe) and started looking inward - to my body, my nervous system, the codependent and perfectionist patterns I'd been running on autopilot since childhood.
That's when everything shifted.
And now? I help folks just like you do exactly what I did to get my life back.
I'm Beatriz Victoria Albina - Béa (Bay-ah) for short.
I'm a bestselling author, Master Certified Life Coach, UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner with a Master's in Public Health from Boston University, and a fully certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner. I'm also a Certified Breathwork Meditation Guide and the host of Feminist Wellness, a podcast where I teach thousands of brilliant, big-hearted people how to stop abandoning themselves.
My work is where science meets woo - all the nervous system research, somatic practice, and polyvagal theory, combined with breathwork, embodiment, and a healthy dose of feminist rage at the systems that taught you to abandon yourself in the first place.
I know what it's like to live in a dysregulated body that feels like it's constantly bracing for disaster.
I know what it's like to ruminate over decisions until you're dizzy.
And I know what it takes to break free from codependent and people-pleasing patterns - not just intellectually, but in your body, your nervous system, your actual lived experience.
In my work, I help people move from what I call Emotional Outsourcing™ to self-trust.
Emotional Outsourcing is what happens when you look outside yourself - to other people, your career, degrees, achievements, etc. - for validation, guidance, worth, and emotional regulation, instead of trusting your own inner knowing. It shows up as people-pleasing, codependent habits, perfectionism, over-functioning, decision paralysis, and this constant monitoring of everyone else's emotional state while completely ignoring your own.
And here's what I need you to hear: these patterns aren't character flaws. They aren't your identity. They aren't who you are.
Nope. Not at all.
They're intelligent survival strategies. They kept you safe. They helped you navigate families, relationships, and systems that required you to prioritize everyone else's needs, emotions, and comfort over your own.
These habits are genius, cause these patterns worked - brilliantly, even - for a very long time.
But now? They're keeping you stuck, dysregulated, and disconnected from yourself. And you're ready for something that actually serves the life you're trying to build.
My Approach
My approach combines science-backed nervous system regulation with somatic practice and feminist theory.
No toxic positivity. No "just think better thoughts" gaslighting. No quick fixes or cathartic transformations.
This is about building capacity - in your body, in your nervous system - so you can actually shift the codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing patterns that have kept you stuck in cycles of self-abandonment.
Through my six-month program Anchored, my courses in The Somatic Studio, my book End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist & People-Pleasing Habits (Hachette 2025), and my podcast Feminist Wellness, I've helped thousands of people learn to:
Regulate their nervous system so they're not constantly running on stress and adrenaline.
Get out of their heads and back into their bodies through somatic and embodiment practices.
Make decisions for themselves without needing to poll everyone else first or spiral into paralyzing self-doubt.
Set boundaries that actually hold - and stop feeling crushed by guilt every time they do.
Feel their emotions in their body instead of endlessly analyzing them in their head.
Stop managing everyone else's feelings and start paying attention to their own.
This work isn't about becoming a "better" version of yourself.
You're already whole, my darling.
It's about building the nervous system capacity to remember that truth - and to live from it in an embodied, regulated way.
Here's what becomes possible when you do this work:
This is the life you're moving toward. This is what's waiting for you on the other side of this work.
Ready to begin?
If something in you knows you can't keep living like this - constantly in your head, disconnected from your body, running on fumes - I want you to know: you're exactly where you need to be.
I've created resources to meet you wherever you are right now.
Start here: Grab my free guided meditations and nervous system exercises. These somatic practices will help you begin reconnecting with your body and your breath.
They've been absolute life-savers for me, and I made them for you because you deserve care, rest, and support - not someday, but right now.
Listen: My podcast, Feminist Wellness, is where I teach nervous system science, somatic tools, and how to unlearn codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing patterns.
Thousands of people tell me it's changed their lives - and it's completely free.
Read: My bestselling book “End Emotional Outsourcing: How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist & People-Pleasing Habits” gives you the complete framework, the science, and the somatic practices I use with clients.
It's everything you need to understand these patterns and start shifting them.
Go deeper: When you're ready to do the foundational work of rewiring these patterns at the root, explore my programs and courses.
Learn: My courses at The Somatic Studio teach you specific skills - from nervous system regulation to boundary-setting to ending people-pleasing habits.
They're structured, accessible, and designed to give you exactly what you need when you need it.
