Anchored Program Review: How One Student Transformed Their Life and Relationships in 6 Months
Looking for an honest Anchored program review? This in-depth interview with Carey Cramer reveals the real results, challenges, and life-changing transformations possible through Béa Victoria Albina’s signature coaching program.
What is the Anchored Program? A Complete Overview
The Anchored program is a 6-month nervous system and somatic coaching experience created by Nurse Practitioner and life coach Béa Victoria Albina. This comprehensive program combines:
- Thought work and mindset coaching
- Somatic therapy techniques
- Nervous system regulation
- Attachment healing
- Group coaching community
- Self-paced learning modules
Unlike traditional therapy or coaching, Anchored integrates both top-down (cognitive) and bottom-up (somatic) approaches to create lasting change in relationships, anxiety, perfectionism, and codependency patterns.
Real Anchored Program Results: Carey’s 2.5-Year Transformation Story
The “Before”: Relationship Dysregulation and Chronic Patterns
When Carey Cramer (they/them pronouns) joined Anchored 2.5 years ago, they were struggling with:
- Chronic relationship dysregulation – feeling constantly tense and anxious in romantic partnerships
- Repetitive breakup patterns – ending relationships as the only way to feel calm again
- Racing thoughts that felt “overpowering” and constant
- Limited relationship longevity – longest relationship was only 1 year 7 months
- Somatic therapy confusion – attending sessions but not understanding how to apply the work
Despite having completed a full 12-step CODA program (Codependents Anonymous) and working with various therapists, Carey found themselves repeating the same destructive relationship patterns.
The Catalyst: Why Anchored Over Other Programs?
Carey discovered Anchored through Béa’s “be the cake” podcast episode, which felt like “balm” and “soothing” during a particularly difficult breakup. What drew them to enroll was:
- The need for new tools after exhausting other modalities
- Integration of thought work AND somatic approaches
- Clear, detailed explanations that satisfied their “high need for understanding”
- Nervous system focus that previous therapy had missed
“I had never learned how to work with my mind before. That was the thing I had never, ever been taught.” – Carey Cramer
The Anchored Program Experience: What Actually Happens
Week 2 Breakthrough: Rewriting Body Stories
One of Carey’s most profound early experiences happened just two weeks into the program:
“I went into therapy and I remember thinking, ‘I can tell a new story about what the sensations of my body mean.’ And I never went back [to that old pattern]. Suddenly it was like, rather than me just repeating the old patterns, it was, well, what does this mean? Let’s go back to not knowing. Oh, is it anxiety? Well, maybe it’s excitement. Is it grief?”
This shift from automatic interpretation to curious inquiry became foundational to Carey’s transformation.
The Power of Both Approaches: Thought Work + Somatics
While most people come to Anchored needing somatic work (feeling “stuck in their head”), Carey’s experience was unique. Already connected to their body through previous somatic therapy, they found the thought work and metacognition skills to be the missing piece:
“Different tools for different people, right? For me, approaching it from having that thought work piece was a game-changer to be able to get into the body. It’s like almost you’ve got to be able to get there.”
Group Coaching: Community Over Individual Sessions
Initially disappointed that Anchored wasn’t one-on-one coaching, Carey now considers the group format essential:
Benefits of Group Coaching in Anchored:
- Witnessing others’ stories unlocks new possibilities
- Chat support provides real-time encouragement during sessions
- Variety of engagement styles – some people get coached frequently, others participate through chat
- Reduced sense of urgency around personal sharing
- Community healing rather than individualistic approaches
“I wouldn’t trade that for the world now. I can’t imagine getting as much out of it as when you’re getting that container feedback from other folks.”
Life-Changing Results: The “Glow Up” After Anchored
Relationship Transformation: From Dysregulation to Security
Before Anchored:
- Maximum relationship length: 1 year 7 months
- Pattern of ending relationships to feel okay
- Chronic dysregulation in romantic partnerships
- Fear-based decision making
After Anchored (2+ years later):
- Two different partners for 2+ years each with no end in sight
- Successful non-monogamous relationships aligned with their values
- Maintained friendship with the ex they were breaking up with when starting Anchored
- Secure attachment with romantic, platonic, and friendship relationships
The Key Skill: Keeping Relationships Instead of Severing Them
“I consider myself now one of my greatest skills and gifts of Anchored is that I can keep relationships. I can hold on to them for as long as I want. And if I don’t want to do it, I can not. But it’s not a thing that I have to sever in order to feel okay.”
Internal Changes: Trust, Presence, and Integrity
Increased Self-Trust:
- Confidence in ability to work through relationship challenges
- Trust that dysregulation won’t lead to relationship destruction
- Ability to stay present during conflict instead of catastrophizing
Enhanced Presence:
- Showing up authentically in relationships
- Less reactive, more responsive
- Ability to “breathe and let relationships ebb and flow”
Living in Integrity:
- Alignment between values and actions
- Decreased regrettable behaviors
- Authentic self-expression without perfectionism
Embracing Identity: The “Nerd” Transformation
An unexpected result was embracing their love of learning:
“I think Anchored really helped me embrace my nerdiness in like a big way. Now I show up with this sense of pride for how I learn and how much I want to learn… That’s been a big shift.”
This led to practical life changes including returning to school and approaching education with confidence rather than shame.
Anchored Program Components: What You Actually Get
Core Elements Based on Carey’s Experience:
- Self-Paced Modules covering thought work, nervous system regulation, and somatic practices
- Live Group Coaching Calls with real-time support via chat
- Somatic Exercises done individually and as a group
- Time Management Module (formerly a standalone course)
- Alumni Community for ongoing support post-graduation
- Flexible Engagement – participate at your own level and pace
The “Engage to the Degree You Want” Philosophy
One student Béa mentioned never attended a live call but listened to every recording and still experienced massive life changes – leaving a 35-year marriage, enrolling in grad school, and moving towns.
Who Should Consider the Anchored Program?
Ideal Candidates According to Carey:
Perfect for “Super Nerds”:
- People with a “high drive to understand things”
- Those who need clear explanations before implementing changes
- Learners who want both theory and practical application
Relationship Pattern Struggles:
- Chronic relationship dysregulation
- Repeated breakup patterns
- Codependency and people-pleasing habits
- Fear of intimacy or commitment
Previous Therapy Experience:
- Have tried talk therapy but need somatic integration
- Completed other programs but still lack practical tools
- Want to combine top-down and bottom-up approaches
Who Might Want to Wait:
Carey emphasizes that timing and personal agency matter most:
“At the end of the day, if you’re not choosing to do it, you might not get as much out of it… It being rooted in agency is such an important thing.”
Addressing Common Concerns About Anchored
“I Don’t Have Time for This Work”
Carey’s Response:
“Anchored is an engage to the degree you want to program. You can get a lot out of it with just the amount of time you have… In two years, time will have passed and I could either have done this or not have done it.”
The program’s self-paced structure allows for flexible engagement based on your current capacity.
“Group Coaching Feels Scary”
From Initial Resistance to Gratitude:
Carey initially had a “teenager rebellious part” that resisted group sharing but found the community aspect transformational:
- Safety in Numbers: Everyone is there to challenge patterns and heal
- Witnessing Others: Hearing similar struggles reduces isolation
- Multiple Engagement Options: Chat participation, listening only, or active coaching
- Energetic Support: Feeling held by the group even when not actively sharing
“I’m Not Sure It’s for Me”
Carey’s Perspective:
“I can’t imagine a single human on the planet for whom the program doesn’t work for. It’s not about what the program is – it’s only for some people. It’s that I don’t know what… if I was someone who maybe wasn’t fully ready, cool, wait.”
The Ripple Effect: How One Person’s Healing Impacts Community
Secondary Benefits Beyond the Individual:
- Friends and family notice the changes and become curious about the work
- Relationship improvements benefit all parties involved
- Modeling possibility for others who didn’t think change was possible
- Community healing through one person’s transformation
“The change is like palpable, visible and it’s been like an incredible honor to get to share what I’m learning with the people I love and watch them change just from that.”
Anchored Program Investment: Is It Worth It?
While specific pricing wasn’t discussed in the interview, Carey’s perspective after 2.5 years (including alumni membership) suggests the long-term value far exceeds the initial investment:
Measurable Life Changes:
- Relationship longevity increased from 1.5 years maximum to 2+ years ongoing
- Educational pursuits approached with confidence
- Living authentically in non-monogamous lifestyle
- Nervous system regulation as baseline rather than exception
- Community connections that continue to deepen
How to Get Started with Anchored
Based on Carey’s journey, here’s how to determine if Anchored is right for you:
1. Listen to Béa’s Podcast
Start with episodes that resonate with your current struggles. Carey mentions the “cupcake episode” as their entry point.
2. Assess Your Readiness
Ask yourself:
- Am I ready to challenge existing patterns?
- Do I want to engage with a community?
- Am I willing to try both cognitive and somatic approaches?
3. Consider Your Learning Style
Anchored works especially well for people who:
- Want detailed explanations
- Enjoy both individual and group learning
- Prefer integrated approaches over single-modality therapy
4. Evaluate Current Support
If you’ve tried multiple approaches but still struggle with:
- Relationship patterns
- Nervous system dysregulation
- Perfectionism and people-pleasing
- Mind-body disconnection
Anchored might provide the missing integration you need.
Final Thoughts: The Long-Term Anchored Experience
Carey’s 2.5-year journey illustrates that Anchored isn’t just a 6-month program – it’s the beginning of a lifelong practice and community. The alumni option allows for continued growth and integration.
Key Takeaways:
- Integration is key – combining thought work with somatic practices creates lasting change
- Community amplifies healing – group coaching provides support individual therapy cannot
- Timing matters – readiness and agency affect program success
- Ripple effects are real – one person’s healing impacts their entire community
- Long-term support matters – alumni community supports continued growth
The Bottom Line:
For individuals struggling with chronic relationship patterns, nervous system dysregulation, or the feeling that they’ve “tried everything,” Anchored offers a comprehensive approach that addresses both the thinking mind and the felt sense of the body.
Carey’s transformation from someone who couldn’t maintain relationships beyond 18 months to someone thriving in multiple 2+ year partnerships demonstrates the profound possibility available through this integrated approach to healing and growth.
Ready to learn more about the Anchored program? Visit beatrizalbina.com/anchored for current enrollment information and program details.