Tenderoni Hotline #15: Breaking Free from People-Pleasing Habits: Monica Silva’s Journey with Anchored
This week on the Tenderoni Hotline, we’re talking about something so many of us live with daily, often without realizing it: people-pleasing habits. The survival strategy that once kept us safe becomes the cage that keeps us small, disconnected from our needs, desires, and truth.
I’m joined by the luminous Monica Silva, a nurse, artist, and Anchored alum, for a heartfelt and empowering conversation about what it really looks like to release those patterns and come home to your own nervous system.
Monica shares their story of navigating burnout, chronic overfunctioning, and the emotional toll of always being the one who holds it all together. After experiencing a sudden health scare that her nervous system could no longer ignore, she realized something had to change and said yes to Anchored.
Together, we talk about how perfectionism and people-pleasing habits show up in our lives, and how nervous system healing and somatic practices can help us shift those habits with compassion rather than shame.
In this episode, we explore:
- The hidden cost of perfectionist, codependent, and people-pleasing habits in parenting, work, and relationships
- Why overfunctioning feels so normal until it doesn’t
- How somatic practices build self trust and inner clarity
- The difference between knowing something intellectually and embodying it
- What happens when we stop outsourcing our worth and start listening inward
Loving Reminder from This Episode:
You don’t need to reject the part of you that learned to caretake and overachieve to survive. You get to honor her, thank her, and then choose something new, rooted in connection to yourself.
Connect with Monica Silva
Check out Monica’s stunning artwork and support her small business here.
Work with me
Ready to break free from your own people-pleasing habits?
Anchored is my 6 month group program designed to help you build nervous system safety, reclaim your self trust, and stop outsourcing your worth to others.
If you’re tired of overfunctioning, saying yes when you mean no, and feeling disconnected from your own needs and desires, Anchored is for you. You’ll learn practical somatic tools, receive powerful feminist coaching, and be held in a community that truly gets it.
Applications are open now. Learn more and apply here my love.
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