Tenderoni Hotline #17: From Overfunctioning to Freedom: Healing in Anchored with Busayo Ayodele
This week on the Tenderoni Hotline, we’re talking about a sneaky survival strategy that can look like “having it all together” on the outside, but feels like drowning on the inside: overfunctioning.
We’re joined by the luminous Busayo Ayodele, a brilliant lawyer, multi-passionate creative, mama, and Anchored alum, for a deeply inspiring conversation about what it means to step out of the role of the overfunctioning, emotionally outsourced Superwoman, and into radical self-trust and nervous system freedom.
Before Anchored, Busayo was juggling it all, career, caregiving, expectations, and constantly hitting the wall of burnout. Like so many of us, she was living from her head, disconnected from her body, and watching her life go by like a bystander. Sound familiar?
In this episode, Busayo shares her powerful journey from self-abandonment to self-partnership. From perfectionism to presence. From constantly holding it all together for everyone else to finally holding herself.
Together, we explore:
- The toll of overfunctioning and emotional caretaking in high-achieving women
- Why doing “all the right things” can still leave you feeling hollow
- What it means to stop masking and start truly loving yourself
- How coaching, somatic tools, and community support helped Busayo reclaim her nervous system
- The ripple effect this work is having on her daughter, friendships, and work life
Loving Reminder from This Episode:
You don’t have to stay stuck in the role of the one who always manages, fixes, holds, and carries. You get to put the cape down. You get to choose yourself. Not because everything is falling apart, but because you matter. Your peace matters.
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Ready to break free from your own emotional outsourcing habits?
Anchored is my 6 month group program designed to help you build nervous system safety, reclaim your self trust, and stop outsourcing your worth to others.
If you’re tired of overfunctioning, saying yes when you mean no, and feeling disconnected from your own needs and desires, Anchored is for you. You’ll learn practical somatic tools, receive powerful feminist coaching, and be held in a community that truly gets it.
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overfunctioning, nervous system healing, self-trust, emotional outsourcing, burnout, somatic coaching, feminist wellness, Anchored program, people-pleasing, perfectionism, healing journey