Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina

Offering unsolicited advice is a habit that can so easily go unnoticed. For me personally, it always stemmed from a genuine desire to help or connect with others, and often felt like I was just bursting at the seams to share everything I knew from a nice, loving, or generous place. However, what we don’t…

Were you raised by emotionally immature parents? Do you have a niggling feeling you might be an emotionally immature parent? Are the challenges that you faced in your childhood coming up in the course of parenting your kiddos or in reparenting yourself?  Even the most emotionally stable among us will have times when we can’t…

The world we live in makes it pretty challenging for us to feel truly well. When we constantly receive messages about how we’re broken, wrong, or need to change, and all of that is layered with the anxiety of needing to get it all perfect, what we can do to feel better? This week, I’m…

By now, you’ll know that geeking out is very much my thing. You might even say it’s in my chart to be a nerd. And this week, I’m delighted to have you listen in as I get my astrocartography reading from psychic medium, astrologer, and intuitive energy healer, Steffi, a.k.a The Spirit Sis. Astrocartography is…

If you’ve ever felt like there’s something deeply wrong with you because you have emotional outsourcing ways of being, you are not alone. The popular narrative out there makes us believe we have defects in our character, when in reality, we need to examine our environment, socialization, conditioning, and the systems of oppression that we…

Last week, we dove into the common misconception that to need others is inherently wrong, bad, and codependent. We explored how needing another human is never a problem and how what actually breeds frustration and resentment around our needs comes from the way in which we express them, and this is our topic of conversation…

Many of us who tend to outsource our emotions often carry a lot of confusion and difficult emotions regarding our needs. We may question whether it’s even acceptable to have needs, or we may have become so skilled at disregarding them in favor of others that we might not even know how to recognize our…

Let’s talk about sex, baby! We love diving into all things relationships, pleasure, and joy here on Feminist Wellness, but one aspect that we haven’t touched on yet is sex. We’re all about reconnecting with our desires and showing up fully in our power, but how can we expect ourselves to do so if there’s…

Do you feel stymied by the question, “What do you need?” Many of us don’t know how to answer this question not because we don’t have any needs, but because we don’t know how to advocate for them. My guest this week is here to guide us through a process of getting back into partnership…

I asked the folks inside Anchored which theme that I talk about most encompasses their experience of emotional outsourcing: codependent, perfectionist, people-pleasing thinking, and the ramifications of experiencing and being in the world in this way. The resounding answer was the self-abandonment cycle. Last week, I offered a refresher on what the self-abandonment cycle entails…