Posts by Victoria Albina

  There is so much confusion about what codependency means, who can benefit from doing the work to overcome it, and what the goal actually is in overcoming codependent thinking. My life’s work is to bridge the gap in this confusion and to help you see where this habit is causing suffering in your life…

  If you’re a coach who’s wondering if Anchored is worth the investment, or if the work we do inside is relevant to your practice, you’re in the right place. I’ve gathered four amazing coaches together who have all been in Anchored at one point, and we’re sitting down to talk about how overcoming codependency,…

  As habitual emotional outsourcers, we tend to either blame others for our behaviors, choices, and results in our lives, or we take everything on as our fault. But what if there’s a middle path where, just maybe, not everything and everyone is the very worst or all sunshine and rainbows? Getting to neutral is…

Thought work and learning about the role of our thoughts as they interplay with our nervous systems is vital in our quest to be our best, most emotionally mature selves, which is what we’re all here for. However, there’s an interesting pattern I’ve seen play out in my clients and in myself, and it’s this:…

Do you ever have those days when you’ve got a seemingly never-ending to-do list, but your brain and body are simply not having it? Your internal world might be screaming, “No, this isn’t the thing I want or need to be doing!” And yet, we continue to push through with an energy of hustle and…

Following on from last week’s episode all about drama, this week, I’m diving into one way we unwittingly create drama in our lives: taking things personally. From a casual comment a friend or colleague makes, to a critical look a stranger seemed to point in your direction, we emotional externalizers are on the constant lookout…

Drama is a topic that’s near and dear to the hearts of all of us emotional outsourcers, a.k.a. those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits. If you feel like you can’t seem to get off the proverbial struggle bus, or often find yourself in the center of a drama tornado, you’re in…

It’s one thing to hear my experience of being mired in codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing ways and going on a journey of healing, but it’s another to hear from folks who have done the deep dive and decided it was worth it to make huge changes to live the way they dream of. So this…

Over the past two weeks, we’ve been discussing attachment and how changeable our habits are in this area, and we’ve taken a deep dive into anxious and avoidant attachment, which sets us up wonderfully to discuss what many in the psychological wellness world call the most complex of the attachment habits: disorganized attachment. So many…