Posts by Victoria Albina
Top 5 Codependent Relationship Mistakes
One of the biggest challenges we face as codependent thinkers is our relationships, all of them—friends, romantic, familial, work relationships and our relationship with ourselves. And particularly our most intimate relationships, our romantic ones, because codependency is a relationship issue—it’s about how we relate to ourselves and the world around us. For most of us,…
Read MoreEp #140: Honoring Your No
If feeling your wants and needs in your body, hearing them in your mind, and then acting on them has felt challenging for a lifetime, this episode is for you, my love. The truth is that for those of us living from a codependent framework, honoring our wants, needs, capacities, and desires are often at…
Read MoreEp #139: Top 5 Codependent Dating Challenges
One of the biggest challenges we face from our codependent thinking habits is in our relationships. They show up in our relationship with ourselves, our friendships, familial and work relationships, and particularly, romantic relationships. If you look around in your life, you might notice that your codependent habits tend to get really revved up in…
Read MoreEp #138: Healing the Spirit of Perfectionism with Alea Lovely
This week, I’m delighted to be sharing a conversation I had with Alea Lovely on her show, Spiritual Shit. Alea is an energy Oracle Card reader and energy coach who helps people discover and move past their blocks through empathetic energy, and we had an amazing discussion all about healing the spirit of perfectionism as…
Read MoreEp #137: The Inner Critic: 3 Steps to Manage Your Gremlins
How often do you hear that loud voice from within that yells at you for not meeting your perfectionistic fantasies about what you should be able to accomplish, think, or feel in any given moment? For so long, my gremlin inner critic was so loud and most definitely unkind. It kept me hypervigilant for any…
Read MoreThe Inner Critic: 3 Steps to Manage Your Gremlins
I want to share three tools I use when my inner critic gremlin comes out to eat emotional pizza after dark. They are: awareness, acceptance, action. Awareness When my inner critic gets loud, I used to think that it was me talking. I didn’t know about internal family systems, which is the work of recognizing…
Read MoreEp #136: Getting Anchored: Living with Intention
Have you ever paused to consider if you really believe the hype of your societal, cultural, and familial standards or expectations? Have you been living your life from obligation, moving from thing to thing, until you look up one day, wondering how you even got here? At the core of overcoming our codependent, perfectionist, and…
Read MoreNervous System Resourcing: Anchor Yourself in You
The nervous system is the missing link for so many of us when it comes to our mental and physical health. Understanding how our emotions impact our bodily wellness, how our minds and bodies communicate and are one, and this lens of the nervous system is such a powerful tool for grounding and centering ourselves…
Read MoreEp #135: Attachment and Nervous System Resourcing
You know how much I love nerding out here on the podcast, and I realized it’s been a minute since we talked about one of my favorite topics: polyvagal theory and our nervous systems. So today, we’re diving into a remedy that has been a complete lifesaver for me, and that is nervous system resourcing. …
Read MoreEp #134: Catastrophizing and Reparenting
One pattern I see in all of my clients (and even myself in those moments where I’m not checking my thoughts) is the tendency to catastrophize. So, something small goes wrong, or could potentially go wrong, and even when nothing has gone wrong, our brains spin a tale of the worst possible scenario: the catastrophe…
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