Posts by Victoria Albina
Trauma Therapy and Somatic Practices with Andrea Glik
Victoria: You are a trauma therapist, you have studied a bajillion different modalities, and I would love to talk about what’s going on in the world of trauma support, trauma therapy these days, where you see things going. I think I’ll just open it up to you. Andrea: Certainly there’s a lot more of a…
Read MoreEp #119: Hurt Feelings: Why You Don’t Need a Thicker Skin
Have you ever been told that you need a “thicker skin?” Maybe this is something you’ve even thought to yourself, that to stop feeling defensive and for other people’s comments to not bother you, you simply need a thick skin. This is something so many folks living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits experience, but…
Read MoreHurt Feelings: Why You Don’t Need a Thicker Skin
I was talking with my client Eline the other day about this shift from being reactive in the world to being responsive. About noticing feelings and becoming aware of them. About learning to pause when you feel that little flood of anxiety, worry, upset, annoyance. When you feel that ping or zap in your belly that…
Read MoreEp #118: Getting Anchored: Boundaries
I’m so delighted to bring you another fundamental episode from the Feminist Wellness library this week! You’ve tuned in to over 100 episodes so far, and there are some that stand out to me as the most pivotal tools and work to heal your codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, so today, we’re going back to…
Read MoreEp #117: Saying Yes from Obligation: How to Say No from Love
One thing that I find frequently coming up in the work I do with my amazing clients is living life from a sense of obligation. And this makes so much sense when we believe we’re not good enough unless other people say we are. And sure, there are things we often have to do in…
Read MoreSaying Yes from Obligation: How to Say No from Love
When we believe that the only way to feel good about ourselves is to look outside of us, to get other people, our job, our career title or credential, our anything and everything to fill that whole in your heart that says “I’m not good enough unless other people say I am” it makes so…
Read MoreEp #116: Getting Anchored: Be Your Own Watcher
Over the last couple of years of releasing this podcast, lots of new folks have joined us, and if you’ve been here from the beginning, you’ve listened in to me teach you countless tools and concepts each week. So, I thought it was the perfect time to re-release the first of some of the most…
Read MoreEp #115: Understanding Beyond Mindset with Lauren Cash
I am thrilled to introduce to you my first ever guest on the podcast. I was tempted to call it an interview, but this was not so much of a grilling as it was more a delightful conversation with a dear friend and colleague. So, with love, I bring you the magnificent Lauren Cash. Lauren…
Read MoreEp #114: Choosing the Wrong People
Do you look back at your life and feel like you’re the worst at picking friends or romantic partners? Maybe you’ve even had people tell you that you’re terrible at this, and so you’ve been operating in the world fearful of your own mind, walking around with a chronic distrust of yourself. If you’re raising…
Read MoreChoosing the Wrong People: Why You’re Not Broken
For years, I was told that I had a broken picker—that I picked the “wrong people” to date, picked the wrong friends, the wrong jobs and confidants because my picker was broken. And I believed it. I was in a challenging place in my life, a vulnerable-feeling place, and I believed what I was told…
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