Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina
The 5 Love Languages & Thought Work
As someone who reads, thinks and talks a lot about relationships, I think it’s high time that we talk about the 5 love languages, which is a framework for thinking about how we give and receive love popularized by Gary Chapman in his 1992 book, which has been a NYTimes bestseller for about 10,000 years…
Read MoreEp #144: The 5 Love Languages & Thought Work
As folks living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts, we tend to have a habit of all-or-nothing, black-and-white thinking, which can lead to us having a hard time accepting certain expressions of love. You might have a preference for loving and being loved, but we don’t want to box ourselves in with absolutes, so this…
Read MoreLetting Other People Be Wrong About You
I want to talk about the magical secret to joy that is found in letting other people be wrong —about you, about science, about fashion, about astrology, about what they heard you say, what they’re interpreting what they heard you say to mean—about all of it. This matters because it’s a big topic for us,…
Read MoreEp #143: Letting Other People Be Wrong About You
When codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits are our norm, we feel a deep need to prove ourselves right and others wrong. This was most definitely my stance on life. If someone said something I deemed to be incorrect about anything, but especially about me, I had to correct them, didn’t I? I remember the…
Read MoreWhat is a Relationship Green Flag?
A relationship green flag is a sign that a relationship may be a healthy and interdependent one based on mutuality and reciprocity. I’d posit that the more we focus our minds and hearts on seeing the good and believing the good is out there and the more we can cultivate a relationship to ourselves to…
Read MoreEp #142: Relationship Green Flags
Here on Feminist Wellness, we dive deep every single week into the painful and challenging things that those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits experience. This work is necessary when these patterns are all we know, but it’s also vital to highlight the good, to love up on and honor ourselves, so…
Read MoreHonoring Your Yes and How to Say No
Honoring ourselves—our wants, needs, capacities, desires—is often at the bottom of the list of things we do from our codependent framework. We say yes when we want to say no because we want to keep people happy. You can shift out of those unhelpful habits. You can live an intentional and deeply radically honest life,…
Read MoreTop 5 Codependent Relationship Mistakes
One of the biggest challenges we face as codependent thinkers is our relationships, all of them—friends, romantic, familial, work relationships and our relationship with ourselves. And particularly our most intimate relationships, our romantic ones, because codependency is a relationship issue—it’s about how we relate to ourselves and the world around us. For most of us,…
Read MoreEp #140: Honoring Your No
If feeling your wants and needs in your body, hearing them in your mind, and then acting on them has felt challenging for a lifetime, this episode is for you, my love. The truth is that for those of us living from a codependent framework, honoring our wants, needs, capacities, and desires are often at…
Read MoreEp #139: Top 5 Codependent Dating Challenges
One of the biggest challenges we face from our codependent thinking habits is in our relationships. They show up in our relationship with ourselves, our friendships, familial and work relationships, and particularly, romantic relationships. If you look around in your life, you might notice that your codependent habits tend to get really revved up in…
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