Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina
Ep #152: The Gift of Wintering
What does the coming of January mean to you? Are you hurrying towards achieving a million new goals, or is it a precious time of rest and renewal? January feels to me like a sacred invitation to go inward, to slow down, do less, and support myself in ways I may not have been allowing…
Read MoreEp #151: Resolutions, Regret and Commitment to You
Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after. And yet, we do this whole song and dance with ourselves year after year. This magical thinking only ever sets us up for…
Read MoreYour Wants & Needs in Relationships
Understanding the difference between wants and needs can be a challenging line to walk from our codependent habits. We don’t believe that we can meet our needs so we expect everyone else to do it for us, and if they don’t meet our needs, they’ve failed us. We’ll discuss wants and needs in relationships—romantic, friendship,…
Read MoreEp #150: Your Wants & Needs in Relationships
In the spirit of the new year, which is just around the corner, my hope is for you to learn to meet your wants and needs in a way that feels aligned with your values and the kind of life you dream of living. So, we’re wrapping up our mini-series on wants and needs this…
Read MoreThe Emotional World of Wants and Needs
We conflate wants and needs so often and I don’t think it’s very good for our wellness, our mental health. So biologically, as human mammals, we have the need for oxygen, glucose, you know, food, calories. We need water, shelter, love, community, safety. These are the things we need to survive and thrive as humans.…
Read MoreEp #149: Building Trust & Letting Your Wants Guide You
Last week marked the first episode of a mini-series all about the emotional world of wants and needs. From a lifetime of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking, it’s no surprise we rarely get our most simple wants and needs met – or even know what they are – but you don’t have to let those…
Read MoreLet Your Wants Be Your Guiding North Star
Wants are the “it would be rad to have it” things, not the things that sustain life. I want to truly deeply celebrate our wants and our needs, but first, I want to share six reasons why it matters that you, that we, from our codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits get in touch with…
Read MoreEp #148: The Emotional World of Wants and Needs
Today marks the first episode in a series all about the emotional world of our wants and needs. As folks with codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist thought habits, we so often conflate our wants and needs, and many times we don’t even really know what they are. And my beauty, this is so damaging to your…
Read MoreHow to Overcome All-or-Nothing Thinking
Starting to recognize when we’re in old habits, like all-or-nothing thinking, is so vital if we want to change them. So we can start to live our lives in emotional adulthood and not in emotional childhood. And to do so, we need to raise our awareness so we can challenge our long-held belief that all…
Read MoreEp #147: How to Overcome All-or-Nothing Thinking
Last week, we dove into the moralistic binary framework of thinking that creates a whole bunch of different challenges for us. All-or-nothing thinking is a survival skill our brains developed to keep us safe, but my love, it’s limiting your world to old habits that are no longer serving you, and I want your life…
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