Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina
Are You Being Nice or Kind: How Authenticity is Kindness
What’s the difference between niceness and kindness? Humans socialized as women, in particular, are trained to be nice—to put others and their wants and needs ahead of our own, to self-sacrifice, to be the martyr, savior and saint, to be the fixer. There is also a very specific story about what Nice looks like that often…
Read MoreEp #132: Are You Being Nice or Kind?
Something that I often watch my clients get confused about is the difference between being nice and kind. This is a topic that is essential to our healing, especially as folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits who tend to externalize our self-worth to other people. I myself have confused these two words for…
Read MoreEp #131: Inside Anchored
This week, I’m thrilled to be bringing you something a little different to the podcast. I’m sharing a live coaching call I had with my client Kelly, who is a member of my six-month program, Anchored: Overcoming Codependency. If you’re new here, or you’ve been dying to know what Anchored is all about and whether…
Read MoreAnxious Relationship Rushing: Why Pausing is Sexy
Anxious attachment in relationship is the kind I see most in us externalizers—folks with the thought habit of basing our sense of self worth in other people, in their thoughts and feels, their needs and how we can meet them, their opinion of us. From our codependent anxiety, we tend to cling, to put other…
Read MoreEp #130: Anxious Relationship Rushing
When you meet a new potential partner, or even a friend, roommate, or coworker, do you ever find yourself racing to that proverbial finish line? Do you find yourself skipping chapters of your life, rushing along to the safety you’re looking for with that person? In last week’s episode, I gave you the breakdown of…
Read MoreAttachment Styles 101: You Can Change Yours
Coming from our codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing thought habits, our go-to in dating, in relationships, in pretty much every aspect of our lives is to live on good ol autopilot—from habit versus intention. One of my life goals is to live my own life from awareness, intention, checked-in-ness and to support you in doing…
Read MoreEp #129: Attachment Styles
You are going to love today’s episode, my nerds. We are diving into one of the theoretical frameworks that have been so helpful for me and my clients in evaluating and understanding our habitual thinking, and that is attachment styles. One of the things we’ve been discussing in Anchored is dating and romantic relationships. For…
Read MoreEp #128: Are You Ready for Coaching?
Are you ready for coaching? How do you even know if coaching is the right fit for you? As you tune in every week and hear me share how this work has instilled a sense of peacefulness in my mind, body, and spirit, I know that so many of you want a slice of it…
Read MoreEp #127: The Art of Reclaiming Our Empowerment with Mara Glatzel
This week, I’m so delighted to share with you a conversation I had with Mara Glatzel over on her podcast, Needy. Mara is an intuitive coach, writer, and queer wife and mother of two who is passionate about helping perfectionists and people pleasers reclaim their sovereignty, so you can imagine how amazing and enjoyable our…
Read MoreEp #126: Getting Anchored: Letting Go of Resentment
In a world full of injustice, there’s almost always some reason to feel resentful, isn’t there? Maybe you didn’t get the promotion you wanted, or someone cut you off in traffic, or your partner didn’t do the thing they said they would, and naturally, you find yourself stewing in thoughts about how you’ve been wronged.…
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