Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina

Learn my mathematical formula for resentment, what emotional labor debt is, and how it compounds over time like financial debt.

Ever feel like you’ve turned into a human vending machine, dispensing kindness, helpfulness, and support on demand? That’s not generosity. That’s survival mode in disguise. Here’s how to stop auditioning for love and start reclaiming your worth. The Human Vending Machine Moment Lisa, a client of mine, once told me about the day someone called…

Discover why being called pet names like “my angel” or “mi amor” feels like a warm embrace to some, while others recoil from it.

Do you replay conversations late at night, analyzing every word and micro expression until you feel like you are losing your mind? Do you wonder if you said too much, too little, too loud, or too quiet, and convince yourself someone must be mad at you? That is not you being “crazy.” That is rumination,…

Discover the brilliant logic behind emotional outsourcing and practical ways to create genuine safety for your nervous system.

Do you second guess your feelings the moment they arise? Do you need “evidence” or other people’s validation before you let yourself be hurt? You’re not broken. You’re running an old survival strategy I call preemptive gaslighting – and you don’t have to keep living this way. The Phrase That Changed Everything I need to…

Discover the brilliant logic behind emotional outsourcing and practical ways to create genuine safety for your nervous system.

Are you reading this while doing three other things? Making dinner, answering texts, mentally planning tomorrow’s schedule? I see you. Here’s the wild part: if I asked you to stop, to sit still for five minutes, you might start to panic. Because somewhere along the way you learned that your worth is in your productivity.…