Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina
Top Tips to Heal a Codependent Friendship
You can be codependent in relationships other than romantic ones. It is common for folks with codependent thinking habits to bring those same habits to our friendships. What do you do if a friend doesn’t give as much as you do, if you feel taken advantage of in a friendship, if a friend doesn’t text…
Read MoreEp #110: Codependent Friendships
One of the most frequently asked questions I’ve been getting lately is this; can I be codependent or have codependent relationships other than romantic ones? The answer to that is very much yes, and we’re talking specifically about friendships today. Does it feel like your friend never gives as much as you do? Or do…
Read MoreSomatics 101: Learn Transformative Somatic Practices
The field of somatics is where this bodymind connection is studied and explored and given the space to be felt and understood. It can be summarized as Susan McConnel says, in the felt shift from “I have a body” to “I AM my body.” The changes that I see in my clients when we bring…
Read MoreEp #109: Somatics: Living From Your Neck Down
A narrative I hear often from the people I work with and a story that definitely resonates with me is that of feeling like we’re living in our brains, disconnected and out of touch with our bodies. When we’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking, this chronic outward focus has us busy worrying about…
Read MoreWanting a Goal vs. Wanting a Feeling
The kind of thinking, “I’ll be happy when,” can be so problematic because of what it does to the now. It takes us out of this present moment, our present feeling. It posits the thought error that you will feel something different when your circumstances change. It’s disempowering and leads to so much suffering now…
Read MoreEp #108: Wanting a Goal vs. Wanting a Feeling
We are well into the month of March, and if you’ve found that the goals you set as your New Year’s resolutions have fallen by the wayside, you are not alone. When we’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, too often we’re not truly focused on our own internal motivations with goal setting, and…
Read MoreThought Work 101: A How-To Guide
The Thought Work Protocol is a framework I use in my coaching practice. It’s based in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, a top-down approach to understanding how humans operate in the world. With my clients I pair this top-down, brain-to-body framework with a somatic, body-based approach. Our nervous system runs the show too, our habitual experience of life…
Read MoreEp #107: Thought Work 101
I’ve recently been getting a spike in messages from all of you asking for directions on where to go to learn all about the thought work protocol I talk about so often here on the podcast. It’s a topic that is weaved into every aspect of my work but to give you a go-to episode…
Read MoreEp #106: Self-Sacrifice
Do you ever find yourself slipping into a martyr role? Is self-sacrifice a way of living for you, or do you maybe see this behavior in someone you love? This was my experience for such a long time, where being a fixer for everyone was a way for me to feel great and avoid looking…
Read MoreEp #105: Buffering vs. Conscious Distraction
As humans who sometimes struggle to manage our emotions and voice them, and especially so for folks dealing with trauma, it’s no surprise that we use buffering as a way to make those uncomfortable feelings go away. However, we all know that buffering is never a long-term solution for managing our emotions, so is there…
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