Posts by Victoria Albina
6 Steps to a Healthy and Meaningful Apology
We apologize to reconnect, to repair, to stitch back together the net of relationships that was made weaker by something we said or did. We apologize because love and peace and understanding feel amazing, and being radically honest with ourselves and those we love about where we’ve F’ed up is so freeing. To do that,…
Read MoreGuilt Guilt Guilt! Helpful vs. Unhelpful Guilt
It’s normal and human to F up, to make a mistake, to not do a thing you said you’d do. But for many of us, not measuring up to some internal standard of perfection leads to a spiral of guilt. The kind of guilt that leads us to be unkind to ourselves, to beat ourselves…
Read MoreEp #85: Guilt Guilt Guilt!
For many of us, not measuring up to our own expectations, or messing up and harming someone else leads us down a spiral of guilt. We’re unkind to ourselves and a beatdown ensues, and my sweet love, doing this is not serving you or anyone else. While we get to learn to drop the kind…
Read MoreLiving with Intention: Create the Life of Your Dreams
Living with intention means learning every day how to begin to live your life for you on your own terms and to turn all those dreams into reality. It means choosing to live your life in a way that is aligned with your truth, your authenticity, your desires, your sense of purpose and sense of…
Read MoreEp #84: Living with Intention
Do you ever find yourself feeling like a week, a month, or a whole year has just passed you by? I hear phrases like, “I don’t know where my day went,” all the time, and this is a common experience for us folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits. We’ve spent the last few…
Read MoreConstraint of Thought: How to Make a Plan and Stick to It
Do you ever feel like you’re exhausted from spending the day making decisions? Whether you’re going to exercise in the morning, do your meditation, thought work, movement, what you’ll eat, what you’ll wear. Do you feel like you don’t trust yourself to get things done that you’ll say you’ll get done because you’re so busy…
Read MoreEp #83: Constraint of Thought
How often do you find yourself stuck in indecision or overwhelm over all the choices you could make in a day? Maybe you feel like you can’t trust yourself to do the things you know you need to, but don’t worry my love, because I’m sharing the remedy with you today. Last week, we discussed…
Read MoreWhen You Have an Urge: Restricting vs. Allowing
Few amongst us like to be told that we cannot do or have or say what we want to. To be restricted, restrained, held back in our daily lives. And so often, what keeps us from living our lives as we most deeply desire are these internal voices screaming, “No,” whenever you have an urge.…
Read MoreEp #82: Urges: Restricting vs. Allowing
Over the last few weeks, we’ve been talking about building self-love and self-trust through the framework of the minimum baseline to start believing that you are a person who keeps their promises to themselves. Today, we’re building on this by talking about the concept of restricting versus allowing. We so often entangle our urges with our…
Read MoreNeuroceptive Response: The Science Behind Stuckness
Ever found yourself setting a goal and feeling great and so excited about it, and then it’s time to do the thing and your body and mind are focused on everything but that thing you said you were going to do. Like journaling, setting limits on your own screen time, daily thought work, writing your…
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