Posts by Victoria Albina
When You Stop People Pleasing and People Aren’t Pleased
We’ve talked a lot about people-pleasing in this blog. That insidious habit of thinking that we can affect or change how someone else thinks or feels about us by trying to read their mind, do what we think they want to us, which is always a projection of our own internal landscape. Your thoughts…
Read MoreEp #70: When You Stop People Pleasing and People Aren’t Pleased
We’ve been diving into the topic of people pleasing over the last few weeks and I’m continuing on today because it’s an insidious thought habit that is necessary to understand in order to address ingrained behaviors we may want to change. People-pleasing thought habits can play a big role in the perpetuation of racism, misogyny,…
Read MoreThe Power of Thought Work in Becoming an Anti-Racist Ally and Accomplice
Today we’re going to get really real about racism. As a white Latina, working every day to understand, examine, and unlearn my own anti-black racism, to unpack and get clear on my own daily privilege. The privilege of passing and code switching and moving seamlessly between the white world and the Latinx world. I offer…
Read MoreEp #69: The Power of Thought Work in Becoming an Anti-Racist Ally and Accomplice
As a healthcare provider and life coach, it is incumbent upon me to use this platform to speak to my own privilege and to be a voice for what is happening right now. Today, I am putting out a call to action for all white and white-passing folks to learn about our own privilege, and…
Read MoreHow to Interrupt the People-Pleasing Cycle
My love, this blog goes live on June 4th 2020, on the heels of the murder of George Floyd, amidst national protests around systemic racism in the US. I thought a lot about whether or not to publish a blog this week, and I decided to put this out there, remedies to people pleasing, because…
Read MoreEp #68: How to Interrupt the People-Pleasing Cycle
Last week, we talked about why we people please and all the possible root causes of this thought habit. We identified how your genius inner child learned this as a survival mechanism, and how this habit leaves you overwhelmed, exhausted, and displeased. So today, I’m diving into the remedies for people pleasing and what you…
Read MoreEp #67: Why We People Please
Welcome to the first episode of a two-part mini-series on people-pleasing. There’s a lot to dive into here and I want to make sure you’re able to take in all this information, bring awareness and acceptance, and then take actionable steps to remedy this habit if it’s something you’ve noticed in yourself. When codependent and…
Read MoreRoot Causes of Why We People Please
When we are focusing on pleasing other people, the irony is in that moment, we’re usually not actually pleasing ourselves. We’re putting other people’s wants, desires, joy, happiness, as we imagine it, ahead of our own. This people pleasing habit often comes from our childhood, from a deep mammalian need and desire to feel safe…
Read MoreGOOP Wellness Summit
On Saturday, March 9, In goop Health was the club that had everything.* Ear seeds. Vitamin B12 shots. Psychedelic chats. Lypo-Spheric Glutathione served with organic watermelon juice. It was a day devoted to wellness—which to us, includes a hall filled with cafés by our favorite healthy restaurants in New York, as well as a stacked…
Read MoreLove is Medicine
AUDIO Beatriz Victoria Albina can remember always being sick, which is why she started to adopt the identity of a sick person as part of her inner truth. Through her healing journey, Beatriz Victoria realized that it was only by finding gratitude in her ability to feel symptoms and dismissing her habitual thoughts that were…
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