Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina
Healing Isn’t Linear: Learn to Feel Your Feels
Healing does not mean not having feelings. Growing and changing and healing and becoming your most intentional self does not mean never experiencing pain or heartache or irritation. It doesn’t mean staying centered and grounded and living in good vibes only all the time because that’s just not how the world works. Certainly not how…
Read MoreEp #80: Healing Isn’t Linear
The process of healing is one that can feel like a never-ending pendulum between pain and acceptance. The work of healing is not linear, and just because you’re doing this work doesn’t mean you’ll never experience the slings and arrows that life throws at us. But you always have the power to come back to…
Read MoreEp #79: Conflict Avoidance
This week, we are talking about the twin topics of conflict avoidance and not speaking our wants and needs, which can be challenging when we’re stuck in the habit of conflating other people’s thoughts about us with who we truly are and our self-worth. When we’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts, we most…
Read MoreConflict Avoidance: Learn to Speak Your Needs
When we believe that other people’s opinions of us matter more than our own, sharing our opinions, wants, needs, desires, setting boundaries, upholding them, and entering into challenging conversations can feel, well, challenging. We’ll look at the thought errors behind conflict avoidance and some simple remedies to help you begin to rewrite and reimagine your experience…
Read MoreEp #78: Minimum Baseline Thinking
If you live with perfectionist thought fantasies of doing all the things, achieving each and every goal you have on your list while feeling amazing the whole time, my sweet love, you probably already know this doesn’t work. Today, I’m calling BS on this thought pattern, and I’m giving you the remedy so you can…
Read MoreMinimum Baseline Thinking: Build Trust With Yourself
When you have the thought habit of perfectionism, it’s so delightful to your brain to make grandiose and enormous plans to change your entire life in one fell swoop. And if that worked, I’d be all about it, but science, my love. My nerdy, nerdy, love. Perfectionism makes you think you have to create and…
Read MoreSelf-Care: Have Your Dinner Before Dessert
Self-care is such a hot topic. These days, taking beautiful and loving care of ourselves is more important than ever and doesn’t ever need to look like a spa experience. Like taking hours to check out of the world. Self-care, in my world, looks very much like checking in and looking at our thoughts and…
Read MoreEp #77: Self-Care: Have Your Dinner Before Dessert
For many of us who are caught up in codependent relationships or codependent ways of thinking, self-care can be challenging, or very much an afterthought. We need to start creating a healthier path towards caring for and valuing ourselves, and so today, I’m providing you with a new framework to start thinking about this concept…
Read MoreAcceptance and Closure: The Last Phase of an Apology
Learn what to do if someone won’t accept your apology, how to accept an apology, and finally, how to give yourself closure when that apology you dream of is just not forthcoming. This is a huge topic for those of us living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits because our egos and our sense…
Read MoreEp #76: Acceptance and Closure
Welcome to the final installment of my mini-series on apologizing. Over the last few weeks, we’ve taken a really deep dive into the anatomy of apologies and mastering the language of apologies, and today, I’ll be sharing what to do if someone won’t accept your apology, how to accept an apology yourself, and how to…
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