Posts by Victoria Albina
Communication-Tips for How to Shift Yours
Most of us have found ourselves in that uh-oh moment when we realize we didn’t quite get our point across clearly. We’ve been misunderstood or haven’t communicated what we wanted to, or how we wanted to. For some of us, this communication mishap can be a daily occurrence. Our thoughts about how these communications go…
Read MoreEp #31: Communication
Communication. It’s a relatively plain-sounding word for something that encompasses so much of what we humans spend our time, energy, and thoughts on! Because communication is such a core part of what we do to connect with ourselves and other humans, I wanted to dedicate a three-part series to the topic. So keep your eyes…
Read MoreCodependent Habits and How to Heal Them
Codependent thinking is common for so many of us. This is when we put someone else’s needs ahead of our own and then resent them for it. You can begin to shift out of the codependent thinking pattern and into a mutually interdependent way of thinking, feeling, and showing up in the world. As adults,…
Read MoreEp #30: Healing Codependent Habits
Building on last week’s episode about codependency, today we’re talking about codependent thinking – a thought pattern that grows out of this behavior and shapes our relationship to ourselves and others – and how to move out of those patterns. When our brains are used to codependent thinking, we’re used to hanging our self-worth and…
Read MoreCodependent Thinking-What are the Signs?
Have you ever found yourself chronically putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own? This could be a sign that you’re in a codependent relationship. Do you find it hard to make decisions for fear of someone’s disapproval? Do you often worry about what others will think of you? Sometimes even to the point of…
Read MoreEp #29: Codependent Thinking
Connection is a vital ingredient for a healthy, happy human life. Our relationships with others can be uplifting and fun in good times and safe havens in tougher ones. But it’s important to remember that relationships of all types should consist of autonomous people coming together to respect and support each other – rather than…
Read MoreLearn How to Give Emotional Consent
Emotional consent is when we check in with the folks we love before responding to their stories, concerns or fears. That allows us to show up in the most loving and respectful way possible. This is the flipside of asking for consent before we respond to others. We can also ask for what we need…
Read MoreEp #28: Giving Emotional Consent
Last week, we talked about emotional consent and why asking people if they want your input before speaking can be such a supportive practice. Building on that, today we’re talking about the opposite side of this interaction and being the person who’s sharing. If your conversational partner asks you for emotional consent before sharing their…
Read MoreLearn How to Get Emotional Consent
Emotional consent is a way to show up with greater love, care and gentleness for the people in our lives by checking in before we dive in. Have you ever had a conversation with a friend where you wanted to tell your story only to have your amiga launch into advice-giving? Have you ever found yourself…
Read MoreEp #27: Getting Emotional Consent
Have you ever wanted to talk to a friend about a problem – not because you wanted advice, but just to vent – and they jumped immediately into telling you how you should handle the situation? Or have you ever done this to someone else? It doesn’t feel very good to be on either side…
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