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The Healing Power of Tenderness in Emotional Outsourcing

The Healing Power of Tenderness in Emotional Outsourcing

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / September 11, 2025

Why Tenderness Triggers Us Tenderness is powerful. When someone calls you “my love” or “my tender ravioli” with genuine warmth, it can spark recognition of your inherent worth. Yet for…

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How to Stop Rumination and Overthinking at 2AM

How to Stop Rumination and Overthinking at 2AM

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / September 9, 2025

Do you ever find yourself lying awake at night, replaying a conversation on loop? That awkward pause, the joke nobody laughed at, or the text that felt “off” suddenly becomes…

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Codependency Recovery: Why It Is Time for a New Framework

Codependency Recovery: Why It Is Time for a New Framework

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / September 4, 2025

Why Codependency Recovery Needs a Rethink Have you ever been called codependent? The word can land like a sting. It often describes people who lose themselves in others, who people…

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Preemptive Gaslighting – How to Stop Doubting Your Feelings

Preemptive Gaslighting: How to Stop Doubting Your Feelings

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / September 2, 2025

What Is Preemptive Gaslighting Have you ever been hurt by someone and instantly wondered if you were just “too sensitive”? Do you replay their words in your mind like a…

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8 signs of emotional outsourcing

The 8 Most Challenging Aspects of Emotional Outsourcing –

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / August 29, 2025

The 8 Most Challenging Aspects of Emotional Outsourcing™ When I coined the term Emotional Outsourcing™, I was trying to name something I lived with for decades, and that I see…

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Emotional Outsourcing 101: Why We Look Outside Ourselves for Worth and How to Heal

Outsourcing Emotions: How We Lose Ourselves and Find Healing

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / August 28, 2025

What Is Emotional Outsourcing? Emotional outsourcing is the unconscious habit of relying on others for validation, safety, love, and belonging instead of finding those resources within ourselves. Unlike labels such…

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The Overfunctioning Trap: How Doing Everything for Everyone Is Costing You Real Love

The Overfunctioning Trap: How Doing Everything for Everyone Is Costing You Real Love

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / August 26, 2025

OK, real talk. Are you reading this while replying to texts, planning dinner, and mentally organizing your schedule for tomorrow? If so, I see you. I am you. And I…

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Functional Freeze: The Hidden Nervous System State Keeping You Stuck

Functional Freeze: The Hidden Nervous System State Keeping You Stuck

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / August 21, 2025

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “doing all the things” while somehow feeling numb, disconnected, or not quite present in your life, you’re not alone-and you’re not broken. This nervous…

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You're Not "Too Much" - How to Stop Shrinking Yourself for Others

You’re Not “Too Much” – How to Stop Shrinking Yourself for Others

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / August 19, 2025

Been told you’re “too dramatic,” “too sensitive,” or “too much”? Here’s the truth: you’re not too much – you’ve just been around people who were too small for your energy.…

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How to Practice Self-Compassion for Your Past Self and Create Real Change

How to Practice Self-Compassion for Your Past Self and Create Real Change

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / August 14, 2025

We’ve all been there, looking back at an old relationship, a decision, or a moment and thinking, “Ugh, I can’t believe I did that.” Maybe you stayed too long, said…

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