emotional outsourcing
I was recently a guest on a podcast when the host asked me a question I haven’t been able to stop thinking about. She was talking about the women in…
What If “I’m So Overwhelmed” Is Doing Two Jobs at Once? Here’s something worth sitting with: when you say “I’m so overwhelmed” — and you mean it, you really mean…
This is Part 2 of a series on rest and nervous system regulation. Read Part 1: The 7 Types of Rest Your Nervous System Needs Alright my love, let’s get…
My love, we need to talk about rest. And I don’t mean the kind that comes wrapped in $300 pajamas or spa weekends that somehow leave you more exhausted than…
You showed up. You called your reps, you made it to the protest, you stayed informed when every instinct said to look away. And then, somewhere around month four or…
Hello, my love. My work is deeply and inherently political. Because your nervous system, your attachment patterns, your fear of disappointing people, none of it exists outside of culture. And…
Can I Be Ready for Real Love If I’m Still Healing from Emotional Outsourcing? Short answer? Yes. This old idea that you must fully love yourself before loving someone else…
Listen, my love. You can do this work alone. You really can. You can read the books, listen to the podcasts, journal until your hand cramps, practice orienting and grounding…
“Nothing Bad Happened… So Why Do I Still Feel Like This?” When I talk about Emotional Outsourcing, there’s often a subtle reaction I notice right away. A quiet tightening. A…
Understanding emotional outsourcing and how ending people-pleasing patterns can transform your relationships, decisions, and daily life If you’ve been people-pleasing, perfectionist-ing, and over-functioning your way through life, there’s probably a…