people pleasing
Are You Dealing With an Emotionally Immature Partner? Being in a relationship with an emotionally immature partner can feel like living in a constant fog. You start conversations hoping to…
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Question 1: Why do I go blank when someone asks what I need? This is such a tender question and one I hear all the time. Whether it’s a partner…
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If you’re dragging by 2 p.m. every day, wondering if you’re just not built for this world… Let me stop you right there. That exhaustion you feel is not laziness,…
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I want to tell you why I wrote End Emotional Outsourcing, the book I couldn’t find when I needed it most. A book for the folks who feel like they’re…
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We’ve been taught to celebrate empathy. To applaud emotional attunement as a virtue. But what happens when tuning in to others comes at the expense of tuning in to yourself?…
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Hello, hello my love. Let’s go full nerd today, in the best possible way. I want to walk you through something I call the equation of resentment, explain what’s actually…
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Are you exhausted from giving and giving until you feel like a ghost in your own life? That is not generosity. That is survival dressed up as selflessness. Let’s talk…
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What Is Emotional Outsourcing? Emotional Outsourcing is the term I coined to describe what happens when we chronically and habitually source our sense of safety, belonging, and worth from outside…
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Why Tenderness Triggers Us Tenderness is powerful. When someone calls you “my love” or “my tender ravioli” with genuine warmth, it can spark recognition of your inherent worth. Yet for…
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Do you ever find yourself lying awake at night, replaying a conversation on loop? That awkward pause, the joke nobody laughed at, or the text that felt “off” suddenly becomes…
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