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When we start gaining awareness that it’s possible to ditch our old codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits, and we begin learning and living into new ways of being, it’s super common to get down on ourselves.  We have a habit of speaking to and thinking of ourselves in such unkind and even cruel ways,…

If you’ve spent a lifetime of time, energy, and effort seeking safety from other people and meticulously making sure everyone else is always looked after, but can’t shake the resentment and powerlessness that comes along with this habit, you’re not alone. The good news is that if what you’ve been doing so far hasn’t been…

Polyvagal theory and nervous system regulation have been a cornerstone of my medical practice in functional medicine and in my coaching work as a somatic life coach. I’ve talked a lot about polyvagal theory throughout these podcast episodes over the last three years, but I realized I’ve never done a full-on polyvagal 101, and it’s…

I am beyond delighted to share a conversation with one of my Anchored clients with you this week. Ali Zamora is a nurse practitioner in family medicine who works in San Bernardino County, California. Her story is an incredible case study in overcoming codependency that I know you’ll all find super inspiring, and she’s here…

Given what’s going on in the world right now: the racist-fueled murders in Buffalo and California, the murder of children and teachers in Texas, the ongoing war in Ukraine, and attacks on women’s and LGBTQ+ rights, all during a continuing global pandemic, it’s vital to pause and acknowledge these horrifying tragedies.  This week, I wanted…

One key component of codependent thinking is the misguided belief that it’s our job to rescue others. The trope of the rescuer has us operating and giving, even when we’re running on empty, and while this seems like a worthwhile and honorable endeavor, the truth is there’s a fine line between attempting to rescue those…

In the first part of our relationship mini-series last week, you learned that I can’t actually tell you whether to stay or go when the going gets tough in relationships. However, what I can do is take a deep dive into the science behind relationships and guide you through some questions that will spark self-reflection…

As we learn to see and overcome our codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits, we may start to question all of our relationships. Some of us may be tempted to swing from deeply enmeshed and codependent to wildly unattached and independent, or even better, to land somewhere in the middle, in interdependence.  Say you’re coming…

You’ve heard me say it a million times over here on the podcast: you can’t heal hurt with hurt. I often hear my clients talk about their choices and their past with so much regret. They live their lives shouldering the heaviness of shame, blame, and guilt towards themselves, and my love, you already know…

This week’s topic is one that hits close to home for both me and my clients inside Anchored. Our parents or caretakers are who we looked to in childhood for wisdom and guidance, but we forget that they too are fallible humans just like us. And for some of our parents, raising kids was more…