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If you’re a frequent listener here, you’ll know how much I love a good metaphor, and this episode is no exception. I came up with a saying some years ago that applies to relationships, and it’s this: I want you to be the cake and let everyone else in your life be the delicious icing…

I have an important question to ask you my loves: if your body was not a problem to be solved, what would you wear? This beautiful question was posed by my guest today and it is just a morsel of the amazingness she has to share about style and confidence. Judith Gaton is my friend…

Last week, we kicked off a vital conversation about a cycle of self-abandonment that those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits unwittingly put ourselves through. We over-function, overcompensate, and overdo for people who haven’t asked us to, essentially living their lives for them, and this very often leads to feelings of irritation,…

As a chronic codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinker, one of the methods I used in childhood and far into adulthood to try to get the love, care, and acceptance I was looking for was to over-give. I used to give from my empty cup instead of from my overflow, more than I wanted to, and…

Welcome to the final installment of our mini-series all about interpersonal conflict. We’ve been speaking at length about what conflict is and how to support ourselves, and last week, I hinted that I would share something I love so much and have found to be truly helpful in any relationship: Clean Fight Club Rules.  If…

Last week, we kicked off a vital conversation about conflict. We dove headfirst into it by discussing our disdain for it as folks with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits, and how, surprisingly, we sometimes have a subconscious penchant for inciting it with the people we love and care most about.  This week, we’re continuing…

Raise your tender little paw if you’ve ever uttered the words, “Ugh, I hate conflict,” or, “I’m just conflict-avoidant, I’m not into it.” I hear it all the time from my clients in Anchored, and I’ve totally acted from this place many times throughout my life too.  Most of us have never had a healthy…

We’re entering our third year of Covid, there are horrific things happening in the world, and my darling, are you okay? We all need room to have a bad day, week, or even year. We need space to acknowledge when things aren’t working for us. But there’s one thing that blocks us from doing just…

Do you often find yourself putting pressure on your romantic partner, projecting a whole village worth of expectations, wants, and needs onto them? Do you maybe find yourself without many close friends and judge yourself for it?  If either of these situations sounds familiar, know there’s nothing wrong with you, my tender ravioli. This week,…

There’s recently been a lot of talk about relationship red flags inside Anchored, and I thought, what better way to celebrate this annual time-honored ritual of Valentine’s Day than to discuss what happens when the shit hits the fan?  When we’re steeped in codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking habits, one of two things tend to…