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As folks living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts, we tend to have a habit of all-or-nothing, black-and-white thinking, which can lead to us having a hard time accepting certain expressions of love. You might have a preference for loving and being loved, but we don’t want to box ourselves in with absolutes, so this…

When codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits are our norm, we feel a deep need to prove ourselves right and others wrong. This was most definitely my stance on life. If someone said something I deemed to be incorrect about anything, but especially about me, I had to correct them, didn’t I? I remember the…

Here on Feminist Wellness, we dive deep every single week into the painful and challenging things that those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits experience. This work is necessary when these patterns are all we know, but it’s also vital to highlight the good, to love up on and honor ourselves, so…

If feeling your wants and needs in your body, hearing them in your mind, and then acting on them has felt challenging for a lifetime, this episode is for you, my love. The truth is that for those of us living from a codependent framework, honoring our wants, needs, capacities, and desires are often at…

One of the biggest challenges we face from our codependent thinking habits is in our relationships. They show up in our relationship with ourselves, our friendships, familial and work relationships, and particularly, romantic relationships.  If you look around in your life, you might notice that your codependent habits tend to get really revved up in…

This week, I’m delighted to be sharing a conversation I had with Alea Lovely on her show, Spiritual Shit. Alea is an energy Oracle Card reader and energy coach who helps people discover and move past their blocks through empathetic energy, and we had an amazing discussion all about healing the spirit of perfectionism as…

How often do you hear that loud voice from within that yells at you for not meeting your perfectionistic fantasies about what you should be able to accomplish, think, or feel in any given moment?  For so long, my gremlin inner critic was so loud and most definitely unkind. It kept me hypervigilant for any…

Have you ever paused to consider if you really believe the hype of your societal, cultural, and familial standards or expectations? Have you been living your life from obligation, moving from thing to thing, until you look up one day, wondering how you even got here? At the core of overcoming our codependent, perfectionist, and…

You know how much I love nerding out here on the podcast, and I realized it’s been a minute since we talked about one of my favorite topics: polyvagal theory and our nervous systems. So today, we’re diving into a remedy that has been a complete lifesaver for me, and that is nervous system resourcing. …

One pattern I see in all of my clients (and even myself in those moments where I’m not checking my thoughts) is the tendency to catastrophize. So, something small goes wrong, or could potentially go wrong, and even when nothing has gone wrong, our brains spin a tale of the worst possible scenario: the catastrophe…