What does it mean to communicate directly versus indirectly? When we have clarity on what we want and need, we open up space to communicate directly. Saying what we mean and meaning what we say. This can be super challenging if we were raised with a lot of indirect or sideways communication. We can now…

How we communicate with ourselves encompasses how we talk to ourselves, how we treat ourselves, and the images we display to ourselves.  These are all modes of communication with an inward focus.  I used to have an old cassette tape in my head that said I was always on the verge of being in trouble. As…

Most of us have found ourselves in that uh-oh moment when we realize we didn’t quite get our point across clearly. We’ve been misunderstood or haven’t communicated what we wanted to, or how we wanted to. For some of us, this communication mishap can be a daily occurrence. Our thoughts about how these communications go…

Codependent thinking is common for so many of us. This is when we put someone else’s needs ahead of our own and then resent them for it.  You can begin to shift out of the codependent thinking pattern and into a mutually interdependent way of thinking, feeling, and showing up in the world.  As adults,…

Have you ever found yourself chronically putting someone else’s needs ahead of your own? This could be a sign that you’re in a codependent relationship.  Do you find it hard to make decisions for fear of someone’s disapproval? Do you often worry about what others will think of you? Sometimes even to the point of…

Emotional consent is when we check in with the folks we love before responding to their stories, concerns or fears.  That allows us to show up in the most loving and respectful way possible. This is the flipside of asking for consent before we respond to others. We can also ask for what we need…

Emotional consent is a way to show up with greater love, care and gentleness for the people in our lives by checking in before we dive in. Have you ever had a conversation with a friend where you wanted to tell your story only to have your amiga launch into advice-giving? Have you ever found yourself…

How to Begin Reparenting Yourself Reparenting ourselves is a daily dedication to living our lives in alignment with our goals. Reparenting ourselves is when we do the work of actively showing up for the child selves within us.  We ask them what they want and need and we support those parts of ourselves with love,…