Tenderoni Hotline #10: Unlearn the Good Girl Script: A Tool for Taking Up Space with Sara Fisk
This week on the Tenderoni Hotline, we’re doing something a little different and deeply special. I’m joined by my dear friend and fellow coach, Sara Fisk, for a heartfelt, hilarious, and incredibly practical conversation on people pleasing, fawning, and how we can reclaim our power in everyday interactions.
If you've ever smiled through discomfort, said yes when you meant no, or walked away from a conversation thinking, “Why didn’t I say what I really meant?”, this episode is for you.
We explore how nervous system responses like fawning aren’t moral failings, they’re survival mechanisms, and why self-judgment keeps us stuck. Sara shares a powerful, tangible framework to help you find your words, practice saying hard things, and step into conversations with more choice, clarity, and self-trust.
Tune in to hear us talk about:
- The difference between fawning and people pleasing
- Why your body might smile before your brain can say “no”
- A communication tool you can use right now
- How to practice hard conversations before you have them
Loving Reminder from This Episode:
Your nervous system isn't broken. It's brilliant. That automatic smile, that polite nod, that reflexive "yes", they helped you survive. You don't need to shame those responses. You get to bring compassion and curiosity to them, and from there, begin to choose differently.
Want to Go Deeper?
Grab your copy of End Emotional Outsourcing to learn how to stop performing safety and start actually feeling it.
You will get real tools, somatic practices, and feminist coaching support to help you come home to yourself, one nervous-system-loving step at a time.
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Connect with Sara Fisk:
- Check out her podcast: The EX Good Girl Podcast
- Follow her on IG: @sarafiskcoach
- Visit her website: www.sarafisk.coach
Tags:
people pleasing, fawning, nervous system healing, emotional outsourcing, trauma healing, somatic practices, feminist wellness, codependency, perfectionism, people pleasing, nervous system regulation, boundary setting, communication tools, self abandonment, inner child healing, embodied healing, personal growth