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Listener Q&A Volume 1: Boundaries and Interdependence

Listener Q&A Volume 1: Boundaries and Interdependence

For this listener Q&A series, I will dive into boundaries, interdependence, kindness, and housework.  The first question comes from Megan in Colorado. She writes,  “Hi Vic, I love the podcast and it’s been so helpful. I’m writing in because I need your help. I’m new to setting boundaries and it feels scary. And I don’t…

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Ep #91: Listener Q&A Volume 1

Listener Q&A Volume 1

Welcome to the first volume of my listener Q&A series! I’ve been inviting you to send me any questions you’d like me to answer in-depth, and I’m addressing a few of them on the podcast today. I’ve received questions around some of the biggest concepts that I cover on this show, and I’m so excited…

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Overthinking Doesn’t Make You More Prepared

overthinking

Have you ever stayed up late at night thinking about something that happens the next day because you feared you weren’t prepared enough for it? Rolling around and thinking and overthinking and worrying. Maybe it was a test, a work presentation, an event you planned, a conversation you need to have. Have you ever agonized…

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Ep #90: Overthinking Doesn’t Make You More Prepared

Overthinking Doesn’t Make You More Prepared

Do you ever find yourself thinking circles around something you’re anxious about? Maybe it’s a presentation at work, or a test you don’t feel prepared for, or maybe it’s ruminating over something embarrassing you said the other day. If you find yourself chronically overthinking, you’re not alone, my darling. It happens to the best of…

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Why Complaining Never Helps

complaining

Complaining, especially chronic complaining, can be less than helpful. We will dive into what it does to your brain and some alternatives or remedies to help you navigate the moments in life where things aren’t what you want them to be. So you can take courageous action for your life. For those of us with…

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Ep #89: Why Complaining Never Helps

Why Complaining Never Helps

How often do you find yourself complaining? Maybe you have a habit of telling anyone within earshot about a problem you have, to get them to agree with and validate your suffering. If this sounds familiar, know that there’s nothing to worry about, my beauty. This week, I’m diving into the complexities behind the habit…

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False Positivity

false positivity

If you spend about two seconds on social media these days, you may notice the pervasive story that everything is just fine, thank you. This is called false positivity. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love positivity and positive thinking, but unless we’re being realistic and acknowledging and holding space for the pain and the…

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Ep #88: False Positivity

False Positivity

Have you ever held back the truth of your hurting because you’re worried it’ll be negated, or because it feels scary to get real about it? On my own journey of healing my codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I’ve come to realize how much I used to indulge in false positivity, and if this resonates,…

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Getting Real About How You Are Feeling

getting real about how you are feeling

Perfectionist and codependent thought fantasies can lead us to think that if we are feeling terrible, there’s a problem to solve. That drive to try to make everything look perfect can lead us to not acknowledge when things do in fact totally suck, when things are actually not great. And that drive itself creates so…

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Saying What You Mean & Believing Other People

saying what you want

When you’ve lived a life that’s been all about other people and their comforts, happiness, preferences, pleasure, saying what you do and don’t want can be challenging to say the least. When you’re not used to directly communicating, it can also feel very challenging to believe people and what they literally tell you. Whether what…

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