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When You Have an Urge: Restricting vs. Allowing

when you have an urge

Few amongst us like to be told that we cannot do or have or say what we want to. To be restricted, restrained, held back in our daily lives. And so often, what keeps us from living our lives as we most deeply desire are these internal voices screaming, “No,” whenever you have an urge.…

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Ep #82: Urges: Restricting vs. Allowing

Urges: Restricting vs. Allowing

Over the last few weeks, we’ve been talking about building self-love and self-trust through the framework of the minimum baseline to start believing that you are a person who keeps their promises to themselves. Today, we’re building on this by talking about the concept of restricting versus allowing. We so often entangle our urges with our…

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Ep #81: The Science Behind Feeling Stuck

The Science Behind Feeling Stuck

Do you ever find yourself feeling stuck working towards a goal? It could be something you feel great and excited about, but you just can’t seem to get your body and mind focused on actually doing it.Nerd alert, I’m diving into the why this week by showing you the science behind it all. We’re going…

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Healing Isn’t Linear: Learn to Feel Your Feels

Healing does not mean not having feelings. Growing and changing and healing and becoming your most intentional self does not mean never experiencing pain or heartache or irritation. It doesn’t mean staying centered and grounded and living in good vibes only all the time because that’s just not how the world works. Certainly not how…

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Ep #80: Healing Isn’t Linear

Healing Isn’t Linear

The process of healing is one that can feel like a never-ending pendulum between pain and acceptance. The work of healing is not linear, and just because you’re doing this work doesn’t mean you’ll never experience the slings and arrows that life throws at us. But you always have the power to come back to…

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Ep #79: Conflict Avoidance

Conflict Avoidance

This week, we are talking about the twin topics of conflict avoidance and not speaking our wants and needs, which can be challenging when we’re stuck in the habit of conflating other people’s thoughts about us with who we truly are and our self-worth. When we’re living with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thoughts, we most…

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Conflict Avoidance: Learn to Speak Your Needs

When we believe that other people’s opinions of us matter more than our own, sharing our opinions, wants, needs, desires, setting boundaries, upholding them, and entering into challenging conversations can feel, well, challenging. We’ll look at the thought errors behind conflict avoidance and some simple remedies to help you begin to rewrite and reimagine your experience…

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Ep #78: Minimum Baseline Thinking

Minimum Baseline Thinking

If you live with perfectionist thought fantasies of doing all the things, achieving each and every goal you have on your list while feeling amazing the whole time, my sweet love, you probably already know this doesn’t work. Today, I’m calling BS on this thought pattern, and I’m giving you the remedy so you can…

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Minimum Baseline Thinking: Build Trust With Yourself

When you have the thought habit of perfectionism, it’s so delightful to your brain to make grandiose and enormous plans to change your entire life in one fell swoop. And if that worked, I’d be all about it, but science, my love. My nerdy, nerdy, love. Perfectionism makes you think you have to create and…

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