Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina

Do you ever feel like shame is holding you back in life? Like there’s a subterranean force shaping your emotional landscape and interactions with the world? Where did you learn shame? And how might it be fueling your emotional outsourcing, and vice versa?  This week, I share how shame takes root in our formative years…

One of the biggest themes we talk about here on Feminist Wellness is living an intentional and authentic life where you’re tuned into what’s happening in your body, mind, spirit, and world. The vital next layer to this is slowing down enough to pay attention to the minutia of your life, and that includes your…

Does life feel like a set of constant problems are keeping you from living your dreams? Are you putting out fire after fire, moving fast and frenetically, often making mistakes and creating more problems? What if I told you this way of living was a choice, and you get to opt out? When stress, chaos,…

How often do you catch yourself thinking or saying out loud, “Ugh, I hate conflict?” I hear it from my clients in Anchored all the time, and my darling, of course you avoid conflict. There are a few reasons why conflict can feel like a serious problem, especially if you’re mired in emotional outsourcing habits,…

Have you ever wondered what becoming someone with a secure attachment style would be like? Does it seem like a reality only the unicorns in our world get to experience? What if I told you there’s not only hope, but that it’s totally feasible for you to develop a secure attachment style too? This week,…

Do you ever feel like you’re constantly swooping in to save the day? This rescuer role is a common thread in codependent thinking. We give and give, even when we’re depleted, believing it’s the noble thing to do. But here’s the catch: rescuing loved ones and truly supporting them are two very different things. The…

I’m here today on this 4th of July, not to talk about independence but rather of interdependence. This is a vital topic for us to discuss here on the podcast, and I’m joined by my favorite person in the whole world, Billey Albina. The bedrock of interdependence is mutuality and reciprocity, which when put together,…

Much of my training is in somatic experiencing, which is largely about trauma resolution, where I help folks navigate trauma within their nervous systems. It’s easy to start talking about somatics solely within the context of stress, distress, and trauma, but the truth is there are so many more applications of this work than just…

For the longest time, I thought I was the only one rolling around in my emotional outsourcing, completely disconnected from my body. The truth is we often disconnect from our bodies as a way to get through life. I’ve since been in community with many humans who have helped themselves reconnect with their bodies, and…

Losing touch with the ability to tune into and trust your bodily signals, especially in the context of emotional outsourcing, is super common. In parts one and two of this mini-series, we’ve defined embodiment and some reasons for cultivating embodiment. And this week, as always, it’s time for the remedies. There’s a complex interplay here…