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Why Your Nervous System Craves Closure and Constant Reassurance in Relationships

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / November 18, 2025

Today, we are diving into two powerful questions around heartbreak, healing, and connection: Why do I keep replaying old conversations with my ex and craving closure, even though I know…

Why You Need to Celebrate Your People-Pleasing Habits (Yes, Really)

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / November 13, 2025

The Hidden Genius Behind Your People-Pleasing Patterns Picture this: You’re drowning in sticky notes reminding yourself to “be nice.” You’re replying to emails nobody expected you to answer. You’re RSVPing…

How to Stop Over-Functioning in Relationships and Start Building Real Intimacy

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / November 5, 2025

Are you always the one holding it all together? Do you feel responsible for managing the emotions, choices, and lives of the people around you? If so, you may be…

The Vampire Invitation: Why People Ignore Your Boundaries and How to Hold Your “No” with Power

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / October 29, 2025

The Vampire Invitation: When “No” Becomes a Negotiation You know how vampires can’t come into your house unless you invite them in? The same goes for the emotional vampires in…

How to Set Nervous System Boundaries When You’re Met With Defensiveness

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / October 28, 2025

Welcome back to the Tenderoni Hotline, where I answer your real, beautiful, and brave questions about somatics, the nervous system, emotional outsourcing, and so much more. If you have a…

How to Navigate Life with an Emotionally Immature Partner Without Losing Yourself

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / October 23, 2025

Last week, we talked about what it looks like to be in relationship with an emotionally immature partner. Those confusing conversations where you show up hoping to be heard but…

5 Signs You’re With an Emotionally Immature Partner (And What It Does to Your Nervous System)

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / October 16, 2025

Are You Dealing With an Emotionally Immature Partner? Being in a relationship with an emotionally immature partner can feel like living in a constant fog. You start conversations hoping to…

Nervous System Healing for Knowing Your Needs and Saying No Without Guilt

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / October 14, 2025

Question 1: Why do I go blank when someone asks what I need? This is such a tender question and one I hear all the time. Whether it’s a partner…

The Hidden Cause of Your Exhaustion and How to Finally Reclaim Your Energy

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / October 2, 2025

If you’re dragging by 2 p.m. every day, wondering if you’re just not built for this world… Let me stop you right there. That exhaustion you feel is not laziness,…

Why Preordering End Emotional Outsourcing Today Matters

By Beatriz Victoria Albina / September 30, 2025

Publication Day: A Love Letter to You My loves, today is the day. Publication day. The day this book I have poured my heart, my science-nerdy brain, my story, and…