Posts by Victoria Albina
Ep #149: Building Trust & Letting Your Wants Guide You
Last week marked the first episode of a mini-series all about the emotional world of wants and needs. From a lifetime of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking, it’s no surprise we rarely get our most simple wants and needs met – or even know what they are – but you don’t have to let those…
Read MoreLet Your Wants Be Your Guiding North Star
Wants are the “it would be rad to have it” things, not the things that sustain life. I want to truly deeply celebrate our wants and our needs, but first, I want to share six reasons why it matters that you, that we, from our codependent, perfectionist and people pleasing habits get in touch with…
Read MoreEp #148: The Emotional World of Wants and Needs
Today marks the first episode in a series all about the emotional world of our wants and needs. As folks with codependent, people-pleasing, and perfectionist thought habits, we so often conflate our wants and needs, and many times we don’t even really know what they are. And my beauty, this is so damaging to your…
Read MoreHow to Overcome All-or-Nothing Thinking
Starting to recognize when we’re in old habits, like all-or-nothing thinking, is so vital if we want to change them. So we can start to live our lives in emotional adulthood and not in emotional childhood. And to do so, we need to raise our awareness so we can challenge our long-held belief that all…
Read MoreEp #147: How to Overcome All-or-Nothing Thinking
Last week, we dove into the moralistic binary framework of thinking that creates a whole bunch of different challenges for us. All-or-nothing thinking is a survival skill our brains developed to keep us safe, but my love, it’s limiting your world to old habits that are no longer serving you, and I want your life…
Read MoreAll-or-Nothing Thinking, Codependency and Perfectionism
Following closely behind the season of bountiful buffering, as I’ve come to call the holidays, is New Year’s resolution time. It’s this time of magical thinking that says tomorrow, New Year’s day, I shall awaken a wildly new and different person with completely different habits that I will complete with utter perfection day after day…
Read MoreEp #146: Codependency, Perfectionism and All-or-Nothing Thinking
As we head into the holidays and the new year, my mind turns towards what I like to call the season of bountiful buffering. Following closely behind overeating, overdrinking, overspending, and subsequently beating ourselves up is the insidious all-or-nothing thinking that keeps us trapped, so this is what we’re diving into today. All-or-nothing thinking is…
Read MoreNavigating Food During the Holidays
Dana Monsees is a dietitian, nutritionist and body image, body love coach. She does phenomenal work to help folks both figure out what the best foods are for them, what nutrients support them, and drop the shame stories about food. Drop the stories that can be so moralistic. Some foods are good, some foods are…
Read MoreEp #145: Navigating Food, Boundaries, and Your Nervous System During the Holidays with Dana Monsees
It’s turkey day for those of us in the US, and this can mean a lot of talk about weight, how our bodies have changed during the pandemic, what we’re choosing to eat or not eat, and it can create a really hostile, triggering environment. If you’re finding your nervous system all fired up expecting…
Read MoreThe 5 Love Languages & Thought Work
As someone who reads, thinks and talks a lot about relationships, I think it’s high time that we talk about the 5 love languages, which is a framework for thinking about how we give and receive love popularized by Gary Chapman in his 1992 book, which has been a NYTimes bestseller for about 10,000 years…
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