Posts by Victoria Albina
Ep #143: Letting Other People Be Wrong About You
When codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits are our norm, we feel a deep need to prove ourselves right and others wrong. This was most definitely my stance on life. If someone said something I deemed to be incorrect about anything, but especially about me, I had to correct them, didn’t I? I remember the…
Read MoreWhat is a Relationship Green Flag?
A relationship green flag is a sign that a relationship may be a healthy and interdependent one based on mutuality and reciprocity. I’d posit that the more we focus our minds and hearts on seeing the good and believing the good is out there and the more we can cultivate a relationship to ourselves to…
Read MoreEp #142: Relationship Green Flags
Here on Feminist Wellness, we dive deep every single week into the painful and challenging things that those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thought habits experience. This work is necessary when these patterns are all we know, but it’s also vital to highlight the good, to love up on and honor ourselves, so…
Read MoreHonoring Your Yes and How to Say No
Honoring ourselves—our wants, needs, capacities, desires—is often at the bottom of the list of things we do from our codependent framework. We say yes when we want to say no because we want to keep people happy. You can shift out of those unhelpful habits. You can live an intentional and deeply radically honest life,…
Read MoreEp #141: Raising Interdependent Children with My Sister Genie Albina
My sister Genie Albina is on the show this week and I could not be more excited! One of my clients in Anchored asked if we could talk about parenting towards interdependence with and for our children, and since Genie is an absolute pro at thoughtful parenting, I knew we had to dive into it…
Read MoreTop 5 Codependent Relationship Mistakes
One of the biggest challenges we face as codependent thinkers is our relationships, all of them—friends, romantic, familial, work relationships and our relationship with ourselves. And particularly our most intimate relationships, our romantic ones, because codependency is a relationship issue—it’s about how we relate to ourselves and the world around us. For most of us,…
Read MoreEp #140: Honoring Your No
If feeling your wants and needs in your body, hearing them in your mind, and then acting on them has felt challenging for a lifetime, this episode is for you, my love. The truth is that for those of us living from a codependent framework, honoring our wants, needs, capacities, and desires are often at…
Read MoreEp #139: Top 5 Codependent Dating Challenges
One of the biggest challenges we face from our codependent thinking habits is in our relationships. They show up in our relationship with ourselves, our friendships, familial and work relationships, and particularly, romantic relationships. If you look around in your life, you might notice that your codependent habits tend to get really revved up in…
Read MoreEp #138: Healing the Spirit of Perfectionism with Alea Lovely
This week, I’m delighted to be sharing a conversation I had with Alea Lovely on her show, Spiritual Shit. Alea is an energy Oracle Card reader and energy coach who helps people discover and move past their blocks through empathetic energy, and we had an amazing discussion all about healing the spirit of perfectionism as…
Read MoreEp #137: The Inner Critic: 3 Steps to Manage Your Gremlins
How often do you hear that loud voice from within that yells at you for not meeting your perfectionistic fantasies about what you should be able to accomplish, think, or feel in any given moment? For so long, my gremlin inner critic was so loud and most definitely unkind. It kept me hypervigilant for any…
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