Posts by Beatriz Victoria Albina
The Gift of Wintering: How to Relish Winter Rest
I’ve been thinking a lot about wintering. This winter, I’m really pausing a lot to remind myself that winter, Capricorn season, it’s a time of rest. It’s a time of renewal. It’s a time of hibernation. I mean, if you live in the northern hemisphere, how many bunnies are there in your yard right now?…
Read MoreEp #154: Secrecy
For years, I believed keeping things secret was the smarter, safer way to live because if no one saw the real, true, vulnerable me, they couldn’t hurt me, right? The topic of secrecy is an incredibly important one to get clear on for those of us with codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, so this is…
Read MoreResolutions, Regrets & Commitment
We can use resolutions as a buffer against our regret around what we didn’t accomplish in the last year without pausing to ask ourselves why we didn’t meet our goals or to process our emotions about the decisions we made (like if we made them from self-hate like weight loss goals). What we need instead…
Read MoreEp #153: Inner Child Science
Inner child work is an incredibly useful tool that is part and parcel of my six-month program, Anchored. I was speaking to my client Margaret recently when she told me she felt the concept of inner child work was a tool to blame our parents for the way we are today, and a gateway to…
Read MoreEp #152: The Gift of Wintering
What does the coming of January mean to you? Are you hurrying towards achieving a million new goals, or is it a precious time of rest and renewal? January feels to me like a sacred invitation to go inward, to slow down, do less, and support myself in ways I may not have been allowing…
Read MoreEp #151: Resolutions, Regret and Commitment to You
Tis the season where, for many of us, our thoughts turn to making wildly perfectionistic and fantastical New Year resolutions. You’ve probably experienced setting these grand goals and giving up shortly after. And yet, we do this whole song and dance with ourselves year after year. This magical thinking only ever sets us up for…
Read MoreYour Wants & Needs in Relationships
Understanding the difference between wants and needs can be a challenging line to walk from our codependent habits. We don’t believe that we can meet our needs so we expect everyone else to do it for us, and if they don’t meet our needs, they’ve failed us. We’ll discuss wants and needs in relationships—romantic, friendship,…
Read MoreEp #150: Your Wants & Needs in Relationships
In the spirit of the new year, which is just around the corner, my hope is for you to learn to meet your wants and needs in a way that feels aligned with your values and the kind of life you dream of living. So, we’re wrapping up our mini-series on wants and needs this…
Read MoreThe Emotional World of Wants and Needs
We conflate wants and needs so often and I don’t think it’s very good for our wellness, our mental health. So biologically, as human mammals, we have the need for oxygen, glucose, you know, food, calories. We need water, shelter, love, community, safety. These are the things we need to survive and thrive as humans.…
Read MoreEp #149: Building Trust & Letting Your Wants Guide You
Last week marked the first episode of a mini-series all about the emotional world of wants and needs. From a lifetime of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing thinking, it’s no surprise we rarely get our most simple wants and needs met – or even know what they are – but you don’t have to let those…
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