Posts by Victoria Albina
Ep #90: Overthinking Doesn’t Make You More Prepared
Do you ever find yourself thinking circles around something you’re anxious about? Maybe it’s a presentation at work, or a test you don’t feel prepared for, or maybe it’s ruminating over something embarrassing you said the other day. If you find yourself chronically overthinking, you’re not alone, my darling. It happens to the best of…
Read MoreWhy Complaining Never Helps
Complaining, especially chronic complaining, can be less than helpful. We will dive into what it does to your brain and some alternatives or remedies to help you navigate the moments in life where things aren’t what you want them to be. So you can take courageous action for your life. For those of us with…
Read MoreEp #89: Why Complaining Never Helps
How often do you find yourself complaining? Maybe you have a habit of telling anyone within earshot about a problem you have, to get them to agree with and validate your suffering. If this sounds familiar, know that there’s nothing to worry about, my beauty. This week, I’m diving into the complexities behind the habit…
Read MoreFalse Positivity
If you spend about two seconds on social media these days, you may notice the pervasive story that everything is just fine, thank you. This is called false positivity. Now, don’t get me wrong. I love positivity and positive thinking, but unless we’re being realistic and acknowledging and holding space for the pain and the…
Read MoreEp #88: False Positivity
Have you ever held back the truth of your hurting because you’re worried it’ll be negated, or because it feels scary to get real about it? On my own journey of healing my codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing habits, I’ve come to realize how much I used to indulge in false positivity, and if this resonates,…
Read MoreGetting Real About How You Are Feeling
Perfectionist and codependent thought fantasies can lead us to think that if we are feeling terrible, there’s a problem to solve. That drive to try to make everything look perfect can lead us to not acknowledge when things do in fact totally suck, when things are actually not great. And that drive itself creates so…
Read MoreSaying What You Mean & Believing Other People
When you’ve lived a life that’s been all about other people and their comforts, happiness, preferences, pleasure, saying what you do and don’t want can be challenging to say the least. When you’re not used to directly communicating, it can also feel very challenging to believe people and what they literally tell you. Whether what…
Read MoreEp #87: Saying What You Mean & Believing Other People
When you’ve lived your life deferring your decisions to other people in an attempt to keep them happy, declaring your true desires and needs can be challenging, to say the least. Having spent a lifetime of not directly communicating also means it’s a struggle to believe what other people tell you, and today, we’re diving…
Read MoreRejection Has Nothing to Do with Your Worth
Rejection hurts because science. Evolutionarily speaking, my nerds, if you got kicked out of the village, you died. A lion ate your face and it was game over. So if you were vigilant to social rejection, you survived. If you were smart, you people pleased and upheld your perfectionist standards and you kept the community…
Read MoreEp #86: Rejection Has Nothing to Do with Your Worth
Can you imagine a world where you never had to fear rejection? You could give yourself the beautiful gift of learning to let other people’s choices be their choices and know that they have nothing to do with you, and be able to take the scary out of hearing “no.” This week, I’m showing you…
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