Posts by Victoria Albina
Ep #105: Buffering vs. Conscious Distraction
As humans who sometimes struggle to manage our emotions and voice them, and especially so for folks dealing with trauma, it’s no surprise that we use buffering as a way to make those uncomfortable feelings go away. However, we all know that buffering is never a long-term solution for managing our emotions, so is there…
Read MoreEp #104: Pressured Perfectionist Procrastination
Do you habitually put off tasks by telling yourself that you “work best under pressure”? Does it feel vitally important that every task you set out to do is perfect or worth creating tons of pressure around? If you find yourself nodding along, resonating with this narrative, pressurized perfectionist procrastination may be an underlying root…
Read MoreEp #103: Meditation Doesn’t Work for Everyone
Mindfulness is a big component of what I talk about here on the podcast and in my work with clients because bringing that level of awareness is vital to our healing. And so, you might imagine that I’m a huge proponent of meditation – and I am – but today, we’re talking about why it’s…
Read MoreEp #102: What if It’s Not a Problem?
Does life feel like a collection of problems right now? The habit of being problem-focused is something I used to do myself for so long, and it’s something I see in my clients pretty much every single day. But when you’re out in the world labeling the circumstances in your life as problems, how does…
Read MoreWhat if It’s Not a Problem?
When your sense of worth is externalized, which is the core wounding of codependent, perfectionist, and people-pleasing tendencies, we tend to source our own wellness, worth, and value from others. And especially if you grew up in chaos or see yourself as a fixer, that person who takes on other people’s issues as things you…
Read MoreManaging Other People’s Emotions
Do you believe that it’s your job to manage other people’s moods, feelings, and emotions for them? With your family, or friends, your partner, at work, even on the subway some days. Do any of these sound familiar: Your partner is annoyed so you try to make them laugh or distract them. Your mom is…
Read MoreEp #101: Managing Other People’s Emotions
Does the notion of trying to manage other people’s moods and emotions for them sound familiar? Maybe it happens with a family member, a friend, or your partner, where you try to make them laugh if they’re upset, or do your best to be good so your home feels safer. In these types of situations…
Read MoreEp #100: My Biggest Takeaways
Today is a very special day because it marks the 100th episode of the Feminist Wellness podcast. Over the span of 100 episodes, I have increased my self-trust, self-love, and compassion for myself and others. It has been a beautiful journey with so many incredible lessons. To celebrate this milestone, I decided to look back…
Read MoreThe Perfect Time for Your Dreams is Now
Does your brain love to tell you to wait? To not do that thing you dream of until your ducks are all in a tidy row, until the time is right, until the stars are perfectly aligned? Whether you defer your dreams for that most perfect moment, struggling to take action towards your goals, or…
Read MoreEp #99: The Perfect Time for Your Dreams is Now
In this beautiful new year full of so much hope and possibility, is your brain telling you to hold off and wait for the perfect time to go after your dreams? If you catch yourself spinning in the perfectionist thought fantasies that tell you the perfect time to pursue your dream is somewhere out there…
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