End Emotional Outsourcing
How to Overcome Your Codependent, Perfectionist, People-Pleasing Habits and Reclaim Your Life
In End Emotional Outsourcing, Beatriz Victoria Albina offers a transformative guide to help readers:
On Sale: September 30, 2025
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This intersectional feminist guide combines science-backed somatic practices and thought work to help you break free from codependency, perfectionism, and people-pleasing—and step into your power.
Do you say “yes” when you mean “no”? Do you end up in lopsided relationships, feeling resentful but not sure how to speak up? Do you feel disconnected from your emotions and your body – like you’re living from the neck up? Do you feel anxious, struggle with perfectionism and imposter syndrome, or feel like you’ve lost touch with your true self?
You’re not alone: Thousands of people, especially those of us socialized as women, struggle with Emotional Outsourcing—a term Nurse Practitioner and life coach Beatriz Victoria Albina coined to describe the codependent, people-pleasing, perfectionist habits that keep us stuck.
In End Emotional Outsourcing, Albina explores the origins—both personal and systemic—of these codependent tendencies, and coaches readers through a nervous system focused, science-backed program of thought work and somatic practices.
Groundbreaking, healing, and urgent, End Emotional Outsourcing is poised to change the conversation about codependency, and help an entire generation of women step into their power.
About the Author
Beatriz Victoria Albina, NP, MPH (she/her) is a UCSF-trained Family Nurse Practitioner, Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Certified Somatic Life Coach, and Breathwork Meditation Guide with a passion for helping humans socialized as women reconnect with their bodies, regulate their nervous systems and rewire their minds, so they can break free from codependency, perfectionism and people pleasing and reclaim their joy. She is the host of the Feminist Wellness Podcast, holds a master’s degree in public health from Boston University School of Public Health and a BA in Latin American Studies from Oberlin College. Born in Mar del Plata, Argentina, Béa (Bay-ah) grew up in the great state of Rhode Island. She has been working in health & wellness for over 20 years and lives with her wife, Billey Albina, on occupied Munsee Lenape territory in New York.
What is Emotional Outsourcing?
Emotional Outsourcing™ is the habit of looking outside yourself—often to other people—for validation, guidance, self-worth, and emotional regulation, instead of turning inward to your own knowing. It’s a deeply ingrained survival strategy, often learned in childhood, where you prioritized attuning to others’ needs, emotions, and expectations over your own. This can look like people-pleasing, over-functioning, perfectionism, and difficulty making decisions without external input.
Emotional Outsourcing™ keeps you stuck in a cycle of seeking external approval to feel okay, making it hard to trust yourself, set boundaries, or prioritize your own needs. But this isn’t a personality flaw—it’s a learned nervous system response, shaped by early conditioning and reinforced by systems like patriarchy and capitalism that reward self-sacrifice and emotional labor.
The good news? Emotional Outsourcing™ is unlearnable, rewireable. By building somatic awareness, strengthening your nervous system’s capacity, and reclaiming your self-trust, you can move from outsourcing your emotions to being your own safe haven.
What people say about it
If you think your over-giving, over-functioning, and over-apologizing habits are just ‘who you are,’ buckle up, because End Emotional Outsourcing is about to blow your mind. Béa Victoria Albina is like a nervous system scientist meets a feminist philosopher meets your no-BS best friend, and she’s here to show you how to unlearn the crap you’ve been taught about being ‘good’ and ‘nice’ – so you can finally be free instead. Get ready to feel simultaneously called out, validated, and deeply relieved—because there’s another way to live, and it starts right here. Read this book, and then read it again, because the way you think about yourself is about to change forever.
Kara Loewentheil, JD
Life Coach and Author of the New York Times bestselling book “Take Back Your Brain”
Every so often, someone gives language to an experience we all feel but haven’t been able to name. With clinical expertise and lived experience, Béa Victoria Albina reveals how we outsource our worth, safety, and belonging—leaving us exhausted, resentful, and disconnected. If you've ever felt like your value depends on how much you do for others, this book is more than illuminating—it’s liberating. End Emotional Outsourcing is a revolutionary guide to breaking free from people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency—once and for all.
Ellen Vora, MD
Author of the bestselling book "The Anatomy of Anxiety"
End Emotional Outsourcing is the book that finally connects the dots between nervous system science, thought work, and real-world transformation. With razor-sharp insight and deep compassion, Beatriz Victoria Albina doesn’t just explain why so many of us get trapped in cycles of over-giving and self-abandonment—she hands us the somatic tools to break free. This book is a game-changer for anyone ready to reclaim their power, their energy, and their true sense of self.
Coach Keren Eldad (PCC)
Author of GILDED: Breaking Free from the Cage of Ambition, Perfectionism and the Relentless Pursuit of More
Listen, you’re not broken, you’re not ‘too much,’ and you sure as hell don’t need to keep proving your worth to people who wouldn’t notice if you set yourself on fire. End Emotional Outsourcing is the book that will grab you by the shoulders (gently, with love) and shake loose all the BS that’s been keeping you stuck in people-pleasing, perfectionism, and over-functioning. Béa Albina breaks it down with science, humor, and the kind of wisdom that makes you go, ‘Oh sh*t… that’s me.’ Read this book. Your future self will thank you.
Andrea Owen
Author of Make Some Noise
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Order End Emotional Outsourcing before September 1, 2025, and receive exclusive bonuses. The first 100 preorders will also receive a signed copy or special Q&A with Beatriz.
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On Sale: September 30, 2025
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